Guiding Teenagers Search

written by: Jacasa Currie editing and proofreading reviewed by: Daniel Currie Let's welcome Blooming Thoughts Blogs, Jacasa, and her inspiring perspectives, with her first post of many to come here in Guiding Teenagers! Last week we looked at understanding how to support gay teens. This week, we take a look at the point of view of a teen themselves. Let’s take a look at a conversation I had with a teen close to me. I asked her 10 questions, all pertaining to her life as a lesbian teen. Let’s take a look at her experiences and perspectives. For this week's blog, we are focusing on acceptance, specifically for the LGBTQ+ community. I took the time to interview someone very close to me who is a lesbian teen. She weighed in on some questions that I feel can be helpful to parents of teens who have come out and teens themselves. I myself am bisexual, but I have never really officially come out to family or anyone who has not accepted that, so I did not feel fit to answer said questions. Take a look at how this teen spoke out about her experiences. 1.  How did coming out change your life? As someone who took a long time to fully come out due to the unfortunate backlash of it, it was a very frustrating and long process because it changed the way people view and interact with me. It was much easier for people around me to accept me when I was out, and fitting in was already difficult as I was a quiet kid. So, for a very long time, I hid my feelings and only came out to close friends and family as it made it easier for me to get around in a socially strict environment where you had to fit in with the other kids at school or else you didn't belong. But soon, that started to weigh on my own personal relationships, and it became so frustrating to try and fit in while trying to be myself around my partner. Eventually, I stopped caring about how others felt about my sexuality and instead worried about the people who have my back rather than the ones who don't. In turn, I've found my core group of people who understand and accept me and have helped me flourish as a person.  2.  When you came out, were there people who did not approve, and how did you deal/cope with that? When I first came out, I, unfortunately, dealt with a lot of backlash, and there were a lot of people, and still are a lot of people, who don't accept me. For a while, it really did get to me and caused me to recede angrily back into the closet to try to fit back in and regain popularity in my school, as I became a social reject. Slowly, over the years, I began to realize that it was more taxing for me to pretend to be someone for everyone's benefit rather than actually enjoying my life. Soon, my frustration towards those who didn't accept me turned into determination to try and educate those who are willing to understand and make up for wrongdoings in the past. Now, I aspire to enjoy every second with my partner and pave a better world for people I care about. I simply live my life and mind my business, just as I wish others could. 3.  What challenges do you face daily? Being that I am still a student, bullying is very prominent and still a large issue that I deal with on a near-daily basis. Simply holding my partner's hand, being of the same sex, causes us to be followed, jeered at, and mocked. Although it irritates me, and I want to snap back, instead, I laugh it off and keep enjoying my time with my partner as I planned to do before an encounter. There are very few public spaces where I can be affectionate with my partner without being confronted, which is frustrating as it's only one of the inconveniences that are thrown at us. 4.  What do you wish that the people who are not allies could understand? I wish people who don't accept would understand that sexuality is like a sandwich. I personally prefer ham on my sandwich and I don't like turkey on my sandwich. My close friend prefers turkey and doesn't like ham. It would be silly to hate my friend for liking turkey because that's their preference, and it's truly not that big of a deal. I don't need to force my friend to like ham, because they simply don't like ham and might never like it. Not everyone has to like ham; that's why likes and dislikes are something we dive into our early years so we have a better understanding when we're older. Personal preference differs in everyone, not everyone is going to like the same thing. So, in all, you don't have to agree with someone's sexuality, but it's a huge waste of your time to create an issue or hate someone because you don't agree with them. Instead, spend time on something meaningful like family or making the world a better place around you and the people you care about, or build a rocket if you want. 5.  In your opinion, what does it mean to be an ally? An ally, I feel, is someone who simply accepts those around them for who they are regardless of race, sexuality, gender, religion, etc. I personally feel its very simply to become an ally, even as someone who previously wronged another because of who they are. As long as you can learn to understand and accept those around you and strive to correct and prevent wrongdoings from happening again.  6.  What advice can you give to someone who is afraid to come out? Take your time, and don't push yourself to do something that puts you in an uncomfortable position. You don't have to lie to the world about your sexuality, but you don't have to tell anyone, either. Your love life is for you and future partners to worry about, so everyone else in between doesn't have to know anything. Of course, if you're in a dangerous situation and your parents or guardian needs to know details to help you, be sure to know your trusted adults and only say what your comfortable with and what will help you in this situation. Once or if you're ready to finally step out of the closet, take a deep breath and remember that it could be a long road ahead, but as long as you have people you can rely on and a determination to live your life freely, you really will be okay, and you will learn to just do your own thing and live your best life while you're still young. 7.  How do you figure out who you are? What advice can you give to someone who is trying to figure out their sexuality? When I was young, I never really understood the concept of relationships, and I didn't understand dating or relationships. I viewed relationships and friendships to be at an equal status, and I never felt that spark between anyone I'd been with, which at that point, was only males. Eventually, upon being introduced to new people, I met a girl. We started dating, which, before then, I didn't even think about as an option. I began to realize I was attracted to women. For a while, I considered myself bisexual because I felt I could be with a man if I really tried, but after many years, I considered how I would feel in different situations or aspects of a relationship depending on what gender I was with. After a very long time of debating how I would feel, I realized that I wasn't comfortable being in a relationship with a man in more aspects than one. On the other hand, my attraction towards women grew. I found more comfort in women than I did in men, and I tried and failed with my dating life for a bit until I met one of my best friends. I felt an overwhelming desire to be by her side, and I then found the spark I'd never felt before. I was just incredibly happy just to hear her voice. We got together and had some hiccups along the way, but despite that, my love for her never changed, but my attraction grew by the second. Being with her confirmed my identity, and since I have felt very strongly that I am attracted to women. 8.  Do you think that sexuality is linked to mental health? In a way, yes? I don't feel my mental health had much effect on my sexuality, but instead, I do feel my sexuality has had an impact on my mental health. 9.  If yes, how so? The stigma towards being gay impacted my self-image, and I eventually began to feel wrong for loving the people I loved. It began to weigh on me and impact my relationships before I regained control of myself. 10. What advice can you give someone who is struggling with their mental health due to backlash from coming out? Take your time! It's okay to go back in the closet and come back out when you're ready again. If you're ready but still suffering from backlash, explore yourself and your sexuality, find like-minded people, and find your support group. It can be friends, family, coworkers, whoever makes you feel comfortable to be yourself. Finding people who can support your through difficult times are crucial pushing through and handing backlash. They should motivate you to be yourself and raise you up when you feel unaccepted.  In Conclusion After reading these responses over and over, I feel evermore certain that this blog is important and feel the need to reach many people with it. These days, no one should have to hide who they are. They should be allowed to be who they are and be accepted. But there will always be people who choose not to accept them. So, all we can do is help support our teens through that backlash and to support them as a person. It can be scary to come out, and even if we don't understand or accept it, they should still feel loved no matter what. Love it? 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written by: Jacasa Currie editing and proofreading reviewed by: Daniel Currie Let's welcome Jacasa of Blooming Thoughts officially with a special edition blog where she allows you to pull back the veil to see what makes her tick! Enjoy the Podcast wherever you listen; just search Guiding Teenagers or check it out here ! Hello, everyone. My name is Jacasa. I am the newest member of Guiding Teenagers. I also have my own blog, Blooming Thoughts . I decided to join the Guiding Teenagers blog when Dan asked me to be a guest blogger. He asked me if I would be interested in joining full-time, so I said yes.   I was asked to join because of my writings in my personal blog and also based on my experience with kids/teens. I have worked in schools and am also getting my degree in teaching for elementary school. I have an associate degree in early childhood education from Morrisville State College. I am currently attending SUNY Oneonta . I feel as though I have a lot to offer the Guiding Teenagers blog due to my education and experience, and I am excited to have joined the team. Personally, I am 27 (28 in September). I live with my two dogs, three cats, and our turtle. I enjoy gardening, reading, sewing, bird watching, camping, hiking, kayaking, and really just anything outside. I sometimes say that I am kind of an old lady since I enjoy lots of the things that old ladies enjoy. But I think that they are all quality hobbies. So, why did I decide to become a teacher? I decided to become a teacher because growing up, I was influenced by my teachers and oftentimes was closer to the teachers than my peers. I struggled socially since I was very shy, which is much different from how I am now. I remember I had one specific teacher who really helped me. I took chemistry my Junior year. I failed every single test that I took. My teacher, instead of just letting me fail, took the time to stay after school with me every single day and look over those tests and retake them. I passed the class and the regents. I have never forgotten that. I plan to be the same kind of teacher. I also feel as though teachers are super important. People do not understand how important teachers are. We are teaching children everything. Sometimes even teaching them values. When COVID hit, I was working in the school, and we had switched to virtual learning. Many parents couldn't understand how we did this every single day. That was the first time people really started to appreciate teachers. I also feel strongly that we are shaping the next generation, and if we want them to be successful, we have to guide them in the right direction. Going to school is a little more difficult for me as an adult than it is for people who attend right out of high school. I cannot just go to class. I also have to work, as I have a car and a house. I do feel as though it helps me to better appreciate my education because I know how much it sucks to work dead-end jobs. Right out of high school, I attended Cazenovia College, which has since closed, for graphic design. I realized that I did not want to use that degree, and so I took time off. I worked in retail and hated it. I realized that I did not want to work at a job that I hated every single day. So, I decided to go back to college. I changed my mind many times; at one point, I wanted to be a Physical Therapist Assistant just like my Uncle, but then I changed my mind to an x-ray technician. But I felt like none of those were really what I wanted to do. So, after some more switching around and soul-searching, I decided to do what I had always wanted to do, which was to be a teacher.  When I was growing up, I used to line up all my dolls at my grandma's house and teach them everything I learned that day. I loved the idea of being a teacher. Knowledge is power, and I could provide that to people. I never pursued teaching due to others telling me it wasn't worth it because teachers don't get paid a lot, and it is a high-stress job. But, it was my passion to work with kids and teach so I decided it was time to do this for me. When I started my degree and started working with kids, I realized that I had found my niche. I absolutely love it. I am not working in schools right now because the school schedule does not allow me to work during the day, which is unfortunate. So, for the moment, I work at McDonalds, which I do enjoy. Along with teaching, I also decided to minor in Educational Psychology; when I took childhood psychology, I was fascinated. I myself have had a lot of issues in mental health, which started in childhood/teens, so I feel as though I could help those kids to intercept their problems early to help them in their adult lives. I plan to teach for a little while, then go back and get a psychology degree so that I can be a child psychologist or a counselor. I feel as though I could really help kids that way. On the blog front, I decided to make my own blog to share my experiences with the world. I have been through a lot in my life. I actually had started a blog a while back that was about the same things, but I decided I was not mentally ready to share those things yet. I had quite a large following, so I told myself I would get back to when I got better. Now, I have "graduated" from therapy and feel strong enough to handle it. So, I started my blog back up. I have written a few blogs. One was about my experiences, and a few others on various topics. My goal for my blog is to reach people who have suffered from mental illness or have dealt with PTSD or domestic abuse in the current times or the past. They are hard things to deal with, and I feel as though my experiences could help people. I also want to be able to interact with my readers. It is extremely hard to get people to interact with my blogs, but I just hope that people continue to tune in. I also wanted to add a bit about why I started gardening because it is something super important to me. At one point, I had moved in with my grandmother because my grandfather had passed, and she was struggling to be by herself. She was very into gardening and had always tried to get me to garden with her when I was younger, but I wanted nothing to do with it. So, as I got older and was living with her, she needed help with her garden. I started helping and ended up falling in love with it. I felt as though it was really helping me with my anxiety, which I was really struggling with at the time. It is also rewarding to plant something and watch it grow especially every year. When I moved, I took every single plant with me to my new house. After my grandmother passed away, my garden became even more important to me. I cry every single year that my lilies bloom because I used to give them to her on Mother's Day every year. Now, they bloom in my garden, a little piece of her. I also have an obsession with indoor plants. I created my own office, and in it, there are many plants. I think like 20, I don't know, I haven't counted. My friends say I have a problem, but I think they are just jealous that I have a green thumb, and they don't. Here is me with my unbloomed lily. It grew to be over 5 ft tall! I also highly suggest that people who have anxiety try reading if they haven't already. I feel as though it takes me to a whole other world, and I can forget about my problems for a little while. I try to read every single day. I read on my breaks at work and when I get home before I go to bed. It is really relaxing and can really calm you down. There are so many genres and different books out there that everyone could find something they enjoy. I also enjoy reading books that have movies out because I like to watch the movies and compare (the book is always better than the movie). Check out what I am reading now: I also really enjoy photography! I started a photography business a while ago. I really enjoy taking photos. My favorite photos to take are close-up wildlife photos. I feel as though I am really good at that. I do take pictures of people as well, which is where the business side comes in. I have done a lot of one-on-one photoshoots, a senior photo shoot, a maternity, and a newborn shoot. If you or anyone you know are interested in getting a photoshoot done, let me know. I offer affordable pricing! My business is called Jacasa June Photography. Interested and looking for your next photographer? Inquire with Jacasa June Photography - email here ! Enjoy one of my favorite photos I have ever taken: Now that I have bored you all with reading my very long post, I shall finish up. I really enjoy writing and hope you guys can enjoy my writing as well. I am excited to have joined the Guiding Teenagers blog and podcast, and I look forward to the journey ahead. If you did not check out last week's blog post, please check it out, I wrote it! I think it will resonate with many. And also, check out my blog at https://bloomingthoughtsjjc.blogspot.com/ Love it? Share it!  (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles !  ✒️ Take me home  🏠 Back to the top  ⬆️ Originally Written on: July 3, 2024 Updated on: December 9, 2024

written by: Daniel Currie Introduction to Teen Screen Time Management Navigating screen time for teens in today's digital age is a significant challenge for many parents—practically a nightmare at times. As digital devices become more essential in everyday life, it's crucial to find a balance that promotes and boosts our teens' well-being while allowing them to benefit from technology. Enter screen time management. I've put together a simple, fundamental guide exploring effective strategies for managing screen time to help you support your teen in developing and maintaining healthy digital habits. Understanding the Consequences of Too Much Screen Time First off, it's vital to understand that excessive screen time can lead to several negative impacts on our teens, even if only minor impacts initially. These include physical, mental, and emotional health issues. For example, I noticed when Khloé, my spirited teen, spent too much time on her phone, her mood and sleep patterns became more erratic compared to after I put simple limits on her phone usage. Research and studies have shown that prolonged use of screens can be associated with sleep disturbances, eye strain, and reduced physical activity. Additionally, it can contribute to increased anxiety, depression, and social isolation. Despite texts showing that social isolation is affected, I personally struggle with that because screens have become the number one way of communication with peers. The jury is still out... Regardless, understanding these consequences is the first step in implementing effective screen time management strategies. Screen Time Trends: What the Latest Data Reveals Data and trends show screen time is only getting worse, causing parents to cry out for some type of screen time management solution. According to the Pew Research Center, nearly 38% of parents and teens frequently argue about phone use. I suppose it's not too surprising if you've ever visited my house for more than a day at a time. The data also reveals that parents of younger teens (13-14 years old) are more likely to monitor their children's screen, limiting it as needed, than parents of older teens. It made sense. A good buddy of mine implemented screen time limits early on with his 13-year-old. He explained to me his reasoning and how it seemed to help. He went on to state it led to fewer fights or conflicts about their phone use since everybody involved knew exactly what was expected. This trend emphasizes the importance of early intervention in developing healthy screen habits. Proven Strategies for Effective Screen Time Management Effectively achieving screen time management strategies will require unwavering dedication to the cause. This includes establishing crystal clear guidelines for your teen while encouraging or fostering healthy digital habits. Here are the top four proven strategies to help you become as effective as possible with screen time management: Set Screen Time Limits Establish daily or weekly screen time limits to ensure a balanced routine. Suggest Offline Activities Encourage your teen to participate in activities that do not involve screens, such as reading, sports, or hobbies. Getting involved with them is a great idea, too! Setup Tech-Free Zones or Times Designate specific areas of the home, such as the dining room, as tech-free zones. In addition, encourage certain times in a room to be tech-free, like the living room in the evening for family game night. "Follow the Leader" Children and teens always respond to actions over words. This is when "practice what you preach" is essential. Show them you strongly believe in what you tell them: limit your own screen time. We created a tech-free zone in our dining room to show my children the importance of this and to ensure they see I follow the same rules. This further enriches family interaction during meals and reduces overall screen time. Balancing Digital and Physical Activities for Teens Finding a balance between digital and physical activities is crucial for your teens' overall well-being. Encourage participation in sports, urge outdoor activities, and suggest social interactions that do not involve screens. This balance helps maintain physical health while fostering social skills and emotional health, reducing potential negative impacts from excessive screen time. For example, it proved to be a blessing when I enrolled my middle teen in a local soccer league. The soccer league not only reduced his screen time (one of my main goals!), but he also built new friendships, found a new passion, and became a physical fitness beast. It was clearly a win-win! Expert Tips on Screen Time Management for Teens Now that we've heard my piece, backed with facts, what are other experts saying we should do about screen time management? Here are several tips for managing screen time effectively, as seen by other professionals: Communicate Openly Discuss the importance of balanced screen use with your teens and involve them in setting screen time rules. Use Technology Wisely Leverage parental control apps and settings to monitor and manage screen time. Encourage Self-Regulation Teach teens to be mindful of their screen use and to take breaks regularly. As stated in many other blogs, I have always advocated for communication and offering wisdom, which is practically a sacred rule in our household. While I do not utilize monitoring tools (there is no need to currently, and there is no reason not to trust my teens), a few of my colleagues do utilize parental control apps that help monitor their teen's screen time to ensure they take regular breaks, swearing by it. They have all seen a significant reduction in screen-related stresses, confirming the importance of breaks. Regardless, every family is different, and only you can make the right choice for your teens. Resources for Better Screen Time Management I have included some resources, easily accessed online (links included), to further help you manage your teen's screen time effectively while offering parental insight: Common Sense Media Offers reviews and advice on age-appropriate media. American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry: Provides guidelines and statistics on screen time for children and teens. Family Media Plan Tool: Helps families create personalized media plans. Must-Have Resources for Screen Time Management In addition, I would like to offer 4 pieces of literature that go in-depth further, in addition to 5 FAQs below. Each of these pieces specializes in ways to navigate the digital world and social media, elaborating on the essential parenting dos and don'ts: Common Questions About Screen Time Management (FAQs!) In Conclusion: Encouraging Healthy Digital Habits in Teens Helping your teen develop healthy digital habits is all about consistent effort and open communication. Encourage them to take regular breaks from screens, making sure offline activities come first. By setting a good example and being supportive, you will guide your teen toward a balanced approach to screen time that boosts their well-being and overall growth. Stick to these tips and strategies, and you'll be well on your way to helping your teen manage their screen time and lead a healthier, more balanced life. Love it? Share it! (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles! ✒️ Take me home 🏠 Back to the top ⬆️ Originally Written on: May 29, 2024 References How Teens and Parents Approach Screen Time https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2024/03/11/how-teens-and-parents-approach-screen-time/ Parents, Young Adult Children and the Transition to Adulthood https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2024/01/25/parents-young-adult-children-and-the-transition-to-adulthood/ Peer pressure or influence: pre-teens and teenagers https://raisingchildren.net.au/teens/behaviour/peers-friends-trends/peer-influence Social media brings benefits and risks to teens. Psychology can help identify a path forward https://www.apa.org/monitor/2023/09/protecting-teens-on-social-media#:~:text=URL%3A%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.apa.org%2Fmonitor%2F2023%2F09%2Fprotecting,100 Ratings and Reviews Parents Trust https://www.commonsensemedia.org/ Teens Prefer Screens To People https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/teens-prefer-screens-people-aaron-paquette/

written by: singledadworld.com reviewed by: Daniel Currie I am thrilled to share a fantastic blog post from our friends at singledadworld.com. Their comprehensive blog, "Crafting Success: A Teen Innovator's Guide to Entrepreneurship," is a must-read for anyone with an idea and the drive to make it happen. This insightful guide delves into the exciting journey of teenage entrepreneurship, offering essential strategies for turning passion and ideas into a successful business. Let's dive into this valuable resource aimed at young visionaries ready to make their mark! Please enjoy it as much as we have! Thank you for your insight, singledadworld.com! Image via Pexels Venturing into entrepreneurship as a teenager is an exhilarating journey that blends ambition with the challenge of turning dreams into reality. This dynamic process is a masterclass in adaptation and growth, providing a unique opportunity to shape the future. Aimed at young visionaries eager to make their mark, this guide from Guiding Teenagers distills essential strategies into a blueprint for building a thriving business. It focuses on converting raw passion and fledgling ideas into a well-oiled business machine poised for market success. Perform Detailed Market Analysis The cornerstone of a successful business lies in a deep understanding of the market landscape. Thorough research is imperative to grasp the intricacies of your target market, including customer behaviors, industry fluctuations, and competitor strategies. This initial step enriches your strategy, empowering you with the foresight to make informed decisions and carve out a niche for your enterprise. It's about aligning your business vision with market realities to create offerings that resonate deeply with your intended audience. Start an LLC Starting an LLC as a teenager can provide valuable real-world business experience, teaching important skills such as financial management, marketing, and problem-solving. There is no LLC age requirement and it offers legal protection by separating personal and business liabilities, reducing personal risk. Additionally, it can enhance college applications and resumes, demonstrating initiative, responsibility, and entrepreneurial spirit to potential schools and employers. Establish Achievable Objectives Goal setting transforms aspirations into tangible outcomes. By establishing clear, measurable, and achievable objectives, you provide your business with a clear trajectory of growth. Valley First notes that these goals serve as milestones, offering a sense of direction and a measure of progress. They encapsulate your ambition in actionable steps, driving you forward with purpose and resolve. Go for the Loan Establishing credit can be challenging for teenagers, but options like secured credit cards, store credit cards, and even some debit cards that report to credit bureaus can provide a starting point. These tools help build a credit history, which is essential for qualifying for larger financial opportunities like business loans. Alternatively, parents can cosign on a credit card or loan to help their teen build credit more effectively and responsibly. Reduce Paper Clutter When delving into entrepreneurship as a teenager, it’s critical that you stay organized. Paperwork has a habit of piling up, and a lost or misfiled document could spell disorder. Luckily, you can avoid this if you start digitizing your records. Simply scan your important documents and save them as PDFs. Create a Robust Business Plan A robust business plan is the heartbeat of any burgeoning business. This comprehensive document outlines your vision and strategies and is the blueprint for reaching your business goals. It acts as both a guide and a gauge for your entrepreneurial journey, keeping you aligned with your core objectives. Moreover, a solid business plan is indispensable for attracting investment, offering a compelling narrative of your business's potential and operational roadmap. Craft a Memorable Brand Identity The name of your business is more than just a label; it's the first chapter of your brand's story. Choosing a name that's both memorable and reflective of your business ethos can significantly impact your brand's identity and marketability. A compelling name sparks interest and lays the foundation for strong brand recognition and customer curiosity. This is all part of creating a compelling content marketing strategy. You can refer to sites that are curated by content experts to generate SEO and material for social media. Spotlight Your Unique Selling Proposition Differentiation is key in a saturated market. Identifying and promoting your unique selling propositions (USPs) distinguishes your business from the competition, drawing customers to your door. Whether it's innovation in product design, unmatched customer service, or sustainable practices, AWeber points out that your USPs are the pillars of your brand identity, enticing customers with a promise of unparalleled value. This focus on what sets your business apart is essential in crafting a compelling narrative that resonates with your target audience, making your offerings irresistible. Prioritize Organizational Efficiency Effective organization is the linchpin of a thriving business. Implementing systems and tools to streamline operations ensures that every aspect of your business, from project management to customer engagement, operates like a well-tuned engine. This strategic organization fosters efficiency, clarity, and productivity, propelling your business toward its goals with precision. Moreover, an organized approach to business management enhances adaptability, allowing your enterprise to respond swiftly to market changes and opportunities. Embarking on the entrepreneurial journey as a teenager is a bold assertion of creativity and ambition. By delving into comprehensive market research, leveraging digital marketing, and setting realistic goals, you lay the groundwork for a successful business venture. This foundational framework equips young entrepreneurs with the tools and insights necessary to navigate the entrepreneurial landscape, transforming innovative ideas into scalable, profitable businesses. Embrace these strategies with passion and perseverance, and watch as your entrepreneurial dream becomes a thriving reality. Read more informative articles on the Guiding Teenagers blog today! Love it? 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written by: Daniel Currie A Personal Adventure: A Dad Meets Pet Bird Rigby for the First Time for an Unforgettable Experience! To Try New Things: Birds Don't Scare Dads! Today marked a first for me: a pet bird hopping on my shoulders while my family burst into laughter, teasing me for looking scared and tense. They claimed this tiny bird, which barely had the power to scratch, much less fly, was intimidating me. To Try New Things: What Not to Do! I couldn't resist teasing the little guy. While he was showing off with his owners—my son Devan and his girlfriend Sarah—I started invading his personal space, poking my fingers near him. I learned quickly that when you go to try new things, one of them not to do is instigate a bird. Predictably, he jumped at/on me. Naturally, my entire family was there to witness their "tough guy" dad flinch—though I maintain that I was cool as a cucumber! OK, I Got This. He Ain't So Bad. I quickly warmed up to the little guy. Impressively, I managed to walk away from the whole episode poo and scratch-free! Thankfully, Rigby left my mustache untouched—otherwise, I might have needed a website rename to notcurlystache.com! Ready. Set. Try New Things Without Thinking. Go! Now it's time to enjoy the shenanigans. Captured by our Google hub, here's a glimpse of the fun we had. I'm the one in the green hoodie, spontaneously ready to try new things alongside my eldest son, Devan. You might remember him from my last article, "Transmission Complete." He's the handsome, younger, skinnier, and long-haired version of me, wearing a black shirt. Devan, along with his girlfriend Sarah, owns the star of our story, Rigby. Comfy Shoulders, Cheez-Its to Snack, and Cameras Galore! After spending a memorable evening with Rigby, whose antics with North Face hoodies and Cheez-Its captured our hearts, I realized how his curiosity mirrored my own. As Rigby returned home, his little adventures left a significant impression not just on my clothes but also on my outlook. Keep an Open Mind When Trying New Things These moments with Rigby underscored a vital lesson about the joys and surprises that come from stepping into unfamiliar territory—It was an enlightening day that deepened my appreciation for keeping an open mind. Interacting so closely with a bird for the first time, spurred by a spontaneous decision, showed me and my family the value of not dismissing new experiences out of hand. That day positively changed my outlook on (pet) birds, especially cute, colorful ones like Rigby. Impacts of an Open Mind That said, and as shown with Rigby, it's essential to keep an open mind and try new things. Experiences like this remind me that life is richer when we’re willing to step outside our comfort zones and not confine ourselves to a rigid, black-and-white outlook. Embracing a bit of the unexpected and trying new things has reminded me of the joy in life's simple surprises. Try New Things: Birth of GT & CurlyStache.com I’ve always embraced the philosophy of trying new things, fully aware that it might not always end well. However, I believe it’s worth the risk to discover what truly resonates with me. I take these lessons and share them with my family, hoping to instill the same curiosity and resilience in my children. In the comment section below, share with us what you've done recently to try new things. We'd love to hear about it! Inspiration to Try New Things As noted in my very first blog, CurlyStache: the CTRL+ALT+Dad life, inspiration struck when chatting with my little girl about what a 'blog' is. Now, here we are with the birth of GuidingTeenagers.com, originally CurlyStache.com, in record time. If you haven't checked out the blog that started it all, please do so. It doesn't disappoint! Try New Things: Birth of our Social Media Platform With the launch of CurlyStache, I didn’t stop at just a domain; I've expanded our presence across several social media platforms. Find us on: Facebook X Instagram TikTok Pinterest Reddit What you can find on social media Our channels are buzzing with quick updates, a steady stream of fun dad jokes, useful parenting tips, engaging vlogs, and much more. Make sure to subscribe and follow us to stay updated and not miss a thing! We need your help. Spread the word! Let your friends and family know about the exciting content we're creating and encourage them to try new things. You can make a big difference by sharing our posts, telling others about our site, and using key hashtags like #GuidingTeenagers, #CurlyStacheBlogs, and #BloomingThoughts, which are found at the bottom of all our blogs. Your support means the world to us! Why Try New Things: Don't Knock It Until You Try It! As you can see, I'm deeply passionate about trying new things. Just ask the picky eaters in my family; they've all heard me say, "Don't knock it until you try it. Now eat." Simply put, you need to try new things before you can judge them. This philosophy extends far beyond the dinner table, where we've all judged the book by the cover. Let's try righting those wrongs; let's make a decisive attempt to try new things without bias and without knocking it before trying it! Push Your Boundaries by Trying New Things The essence of being true to yourself involves exploring new avenues—whether it's tasting a new dish, engaging with a pet bird, or launching a blog, it all boils down to three simple words: try new things. It’s about being open and willing to experience life fully, embracing everything from minor changes to major leaps. That said, the only way to truly "be you" is to keep pushing your boundaries and try new things. Be You When You Try New Things Be yourself and accept the good and the bad that comes with it as you try new things. In simpler terms, march to your own beat, but always press forward. Be The Leader by Trying New Things Lead rather than follow and dare to color outside the lines. Embracing this mindset can lead to profound contentment. Life will undoubtedly present challenges, including bumps and failures, but each setback is a setup for future success. Live Authentically While my advice might sound like a cliché from a greeting card or psychology class, I assure you, it's grounded in truth. Live authentically, and watch as things begin to align more harmoniously in your life. What can you change in your daily life to ensure you are living authentically? Final Thoughts To sum up, keep your head high, try new things, welcome new challenges, and embrace the opportunity to try new things. Doing this will bring unimaginable possibilities into your life, including happiness and less stress. So, why not take that first step towards something new today? I encourage you to try new things—just maybe steer clear of instigating birds! UPDATE - 5/16/2023, R.I.P. Rigby 😢 This original post was written on March 25th, 2023. Sadly, our beloved Rigby has passed away since then due to an accident involving another pet who was playing a bit too roughly with him. Although he was part of our lives for just a brief time, Rigby made a lasting impression. This post is dedicated to his memory. Rest in peace, Rigby. Love it? Share it! (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles! ✒️ Take me home 🏠 Back to the top ⬆️ Originally Written on: March 25, 2023 Most Recent Update on: April 14, 2024

written by: Daniel Currie Launched March 18th, 2023, this is the author's story and how it all came to be: "Our Pilot Blog" Introduction: Parenting Teens and the Years Ahead Hey there! I'm Dan, better known as CurlyStache. If you're navigating the wild waters of parenting teens, you're in good company. Strap in; it's a rollercoaster ride—scary, thrilling, and intense, but ultimately, it's an exhilarating journey that's over before you know it. CurlyStache: The Man Behind the Parenting Teens Blog Hailing from upstate New York, I'm not just the guy with the ever-changing curly or pencil mustache. By day, I'm a blue-collar broadband cable guy (curious about some of that WiFi lingo? Check out this special!); by night, I'm your go-to parenting teens blogger. So, what transformed me from a cable guy into a parenting advocate? It all started with a simple, yet profound, four-word question from my adorable daughter. The Question that Sparked the GuidingTeenagers Universe It was a lazy Saturday afternoon—one of those perfect moments for a father-daughter chat over my zillionth cup of coffee. Out of the blue, my 13-year-old daughter, Khloé, hit me with, "Dad, what's a blog?" What began as a fun fact-finding mission via our Google hub turned into a realization: this was my calling. The Platform: Real Talk About Parenting Teens As my daydreams turned into reality, I realized parenting teens was exactly where I needed to focus. Growing up in an authoritarian household and now riding the rollercoaster of fatherhood, I felt drawn to share and shape these experiences into the foundation of CurlyStache, which later evolved into GuidingTeenagers. GuidingTeenagers: It's Parenting Teens Mission Our mission is straightforward: deliver real-life tales from the parenting trenches and blend practical advice with solid facts. This blog is your sanctuary for discussing the gritty realities of raising teens. I bring the same street-smart, blue-collar integrity to our conversations that I bring to my day job up and down telephone poles. CTRL_control: Keeping Control When Parenting Teens Heats Up I'm not here to preach or claim I've got all the answers—far from it. I'm here to share the successes and the stumbles in parenting teens. Here at GuidingTeenagers, we dive headfirst into the tricky discussions, not just skirting around them. This blog is all about building a community where every kind of parent, whether you're a CTRL+ALT+Dad or a CTRL+ALT+Mom, can find a bit of solace and a lot of support. Together, we navigate the challenging waters of family life, sharing insights and laughs along the way. ALT_alternate: Creative Solutions for Sticky Situations Ever find yourself stuck between a rock and a hard place? I've been there. Parenting teens today requires agility and innovation. Sometimes, it means getting creative—like figuring out how to curb phone time at dinner or navigating tough conversations. GuidingTeenagers is packed with resourceful, decisive strategies to support your parenting journey. DAD_conclusion: You Are Not Alone in Parenting Teens Let's wrap this up with an essential reminder: GuidingTeenagers is more than just a blog—it's a community. It's a spot to relax, share a chuckle, and realize you're not alone in this parenting adventure. Have a story to share, a tip to pass along, or a topic you're eager to discuss? Drop a comment or shoot me an email. This space is as much yours as it is mine. Love it? Share it! (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles! ✒️ Take me home 🏠 Back to the top ⬆️ Originally Written on: March 18, 2023 Most Recent Update on: April 17, 2024

written by: Daniel Currie Introduction In every family’s tapestry, the threads that hold the fabric together are woven with countless colors of communication. These interactions, whether filled with laughter or tension, shape the essence of our relationships. Today, I revisit a story close to my heart—a simple, everyday conversation with my son, Devan, that beautifully captures the essence of truly connecting with our children as we navigate the journey of communication in parenting. The Story Unfolds | Communication in Parenting: Transmission Sent "Hey! Devan!" I called out one sunny afternoon. My voice, a mix of anticipation and the usual parental concern echoed slightly in the hallway. Devan, standing on the cusp of adulthood yet still my little boy in so many ways, was darting in and out of the house as young adults often do. "Yup, Dad?" His reply came, his voice deeper now, a reminder of the time slipping by. I chuckled softly, the sound mingling with a father's typical exasperation. "Please remember to shake out the pig blankets before tossing them in the wash," I reminded him, picturing the tiny hay pieces that could wreak havoc in our laundry system. The Assurance | Communication in Parenting: Transmission Recieved "Yeah, sure, Dad. Got it!" He responded, the quick assurance of a typical teenager echoing down the hall. The Missed Connection | Communication in Parenting: Transmission Failed Later, as I went to load the washing machine, a familiar disappointment settled in. The washer drum was littered with hay—the blankets nowhere in sight. Devan, it seemed, had missed the mark on our simple exchange. It was a small mishap, yet it spoke volumes. Communication in Parenting: Reflection and Understanding As I cleaned up the remnants of our miscommunication, my thoughts wandered to what had gone unsaid. Had I made my expectations clear? Was I too brief, or perhaps not direct enough? This wasn’t just about forgotten chores; it was about ensuring that my messages resonated with Devan in a way that prompted action and understanding. Communication in Parenting: A Parent's Needs It was crucial not just that my son heard what I was saying, but that he truly understood and engaged with it. In our daily exchanges over simple tasks, like the incident with the laundry, I wasn't just instructing him; I was testing our lines of communication and how well I was doing with my communication in parenting. It was vital for me to feel confident that he comprehended my words and was prepared to respond thoughtfully—even in seemingly trivial matters. Communication in Parenting: A Success Despite the mishap with the laundry, I hold a deep-seated trust that Devan listens—truly listens—when it matters most. This incident, while not ending as expected, isn't a failure but rather a valuable reminder and a learning opportunity for both of us. In previous situations, Devan has shown his ability to follow through effectively, which reassures me that our foundation of communication is solid. My approach to communication in parenting remains intact. I rest easy knowing that in critical moments, my son will heed my guidance with the respect and attention it deserves. Communication in Parenting: The Bottom Line This ongoing dialogue reassures me that Devan feels at ease opening up, sharing, and engaging in meaningful conversations with me. It’s important to highlight that the enjoyment of the topics we discuss isn't our primary goal. Instead, our focus is on maintaining an open channel of communication, ensuring we're both comfortable with just connecting and exchanging thoughts. This approach is the quintessence of effective communication in parenting—it's about making sure that our interactions foster a secure and understanding relationship, even if the subjects themselves are not always agreeable. Communication in Parenting: A Parent's Lesson This story, while trivial at first glance, is laden with lessons on the nuances of communicating effectively with our growing children and teens: Clarity First: Ensure your instructions are not just heard but understood. Sometimes, what seems obvious to us isn't as clear to someone else. Engage in Feedback: After sharing instructions or expectations, ask for feedback. A simple “What did you understand?” can prevent many misunderstandings. Consistent, Open Dialogues: Foster an environment where regular, open conversations are the norm, not the exception. This builds trust and makes it easier to navigate more critical discussions when they arise. Heartfelt Conclusion Communication in Parenting—true, effective communication—is the cornerstone of not only parenting but of all relationships. It’s about more than just transmitting information; it’s about ensuring our messages are woven into the understanding of those we love. As parents, we have the wonderful opportunity to do more than just talk to our children. It's essential that we engage with them, listen intently, and make sure they sincerely feel heard and understood. This is what truly defines effective communication in parenting. Let's commit to not just sending messages but to connecting deeply, one conversation at a time. Love it? Share it! (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles! ✒️ Take me home 🏠 Back to the top ⬆️ Originally Written on: March 22, 2023 Most Recent Update on: April 14, 2024

written by: Daniel Currie Introduction Alright, prank enthusiasts and curious minds alike—have you ever stumbled upon a calendar so bizarre it features a "National Asshole Day"? If you've ever thought this quirky occasion sounds suspiciously like April Fools' Day, you're not alone. Today, we dive into "everything April Fools," exploring its cheeky connection with National Asshole Day and unveiling the rich tapestry of history and hijinks that surround this day of practical jokes. The Quirky Origins of National Asshole Day and Its Twin, April Fools: Every year, as April 1st rolls around, a certain mischievous spirit fills the air. It's not just any playful spirit; it's one that some might call the essence of National Asshole Day. But what's the deal with this unofficial holiday? National Asshole Day isn't recognized on any official calendar, despite numerous contradictions and random dates from sites, but its spirit is alive and well on April Fools' Day. This is the one day a year where pranks pull us together or push us to vow revenge. From the harmless to the elaborate, pranks are both the hallmark of April Fools and the reason why it might as well be called National Asshole Day. Delving into the History: Everything April Fools The origins of April Fools' Day are as murky as the coffee you switched for saltwater in your spouse's mug this morning. Historically, it dates back to the 16th century when France shifted from the Julian calendar to the Gregorian calendar as called for by the Council of Trent. Those who failed to realize that the start of the new year had moved to January 1st and continued celebrating it during the last week of March became the target of jokes and hoaxes. These early pranks gave rise to an annual celebration of shenanigans that spread across Europe and, later, the world. The term "Poisson d'Avril" (April Fish) became a popular joke in France, involving pinning a paper fish on someone's back as a declaration of gullibility. Epic Pranks That Defined National Asshole Day (AKA April Fools) Fast forward to modern times, and the pranks have only gotten more ingenious and, yes, sometimes more asshole-ish. Here are some of the most memorable April Fools' pranks that perfectly capture the spirit of National Asshole Day: 1905: A German newspaper company, Berliner Tageblatt, released a fictional story of burglars digging under the U.S. Treasury and robbing it, which sent the U.S. into panic mode, trying to catch the fictional characters 1957: The BBC aired a fake news segment about Swiss farmers enjoying a bountiful spaghetti harvest, complete with footage of people picking spaghetti from trees. 1985: Sports Illustrated published a story about a rookie pitcher named Sidd Finch who could throw a fastball over 168 miles per hour. 1996: Taco Bell convinced the public they had purchased the Liberty Bell and were renaming it the "Taco Liberty Bell." 1998: Burger King advertised a "Left-Handed Whopper," leading to request chaos at restaurants. 2013: The U.S. Army declared they were drafting cats, citing cost-cutting measures and an all-paws-on-deck policy. Tips for Celebrating National Asshole Day Responsibly While pulling off the perfect prank can feel like a badge of honor, it's important to keep the spirit of fun alive without crossing into actual asshole territory. Here are some tips for responsible pranking: Keep it light: The best pranks are harmless and generate laughter from everyone involved, including the prankee. Know your audience: What works for one person might not be appropriate for another. Tailor your pranks to suit the individual's sense of humor and tolerance. Safety first: Never compromise someone's safety (or your own) for the sake of a joke. Wrapping Up: Why We Embrace the Prankster Within National Asshole Day and everything April Fools remind us of the value of humor in our lives. In an age where laughter sometimes seems in short supply, a well-executed prank can be a welcome distraction and a means to bond with friends, family, and coworkers. So, as we look forward to April 1st, let's plan to unleash our inner pranksters—but maybe keep the real asshole moves to a minimum. Have any epic pranks you've pulled or fallen for? Share your stories below, and let's have a laugh! Final Thoughts Whether you call it National Asshole Day or April Fools' Day, the first of April is a time for laughter, jest, and the occasional look over your shoulder. It's a day to celebrate the trickster in all of us and to remember not to take life too seriously—at least not today. Let me know in the comments what you did this April Fools! Did you play it safe, or did you earn the title of "Ultimate Asshole" with your pranks? Cheers to a day filled with laughs and good-natured fun! Love it? Share it! (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles! ✒️ Take me home 🏠 Back to the top ⬆️ Originally Written on: April 1, 2023 Most Recent Update on: May 4, 2024

written by: Daniel Currie Introduction Mother's Day 2024 is fast approaching, bringing with it an opportunity to express love, gratitude, and admiration for the incredible moms and mother figures who fill our lives with joy. From thoughtful traditions to the newest trending gift ideas, this guide provides everything you need to make this year truly special. Let's explore the importance of Mother's Day, its rich history, and how to celebrate it creatively and warmly. The Importance of Mother's Day Mother's Day holds a unique place in our hearts. It's a time to recognize the unwavering love, care, and support that mothers provide daily. The bond between a mother and child is powerful, built on countless shared moments of laughter, challenges, and triumphs. This day allows us to express our gratitude and reflect on how deeply these women have shaped our lives and communities. Traditions and History of Mother's Day in the U.S. In the U.S., the modern observance of Mother's Day is attributed to Anna Jarvis, who wanted to honor her own mother in 1908. She successfully campaigned to make the second Sunday of May a day to celebrate mothers nationwide. Officially recognized in 1914, this tradition continues today with flowers, heartfelt messages, family gatherings, and tokens of love that express our appreciation for mothers. 5 Traditions Throughout Other Cultures Mother's Day is celebrated in various ways across different cultures: Mexico: Mexican families celebrate on May 10th with mariachi bands serenading mothers in the early morning. The day is filled with flowers, gifts, and the traditional song "Las Mañanitas." United Kingdom: Known as "Mothering Sunday," it falls on the 4th Sunday of Lent and traditionally includes church services and gift-giving. Ethiopia: The Antrosht festival brings families together for a feast. Sons provide meat, while daughters bring vegetables for a shared stew to honor their mothers. Thailand: This day is celebrated on August 12th, coinciding with the Queen Mother's birthday. It includes candlelighting ceremonies and parades. India: Mother's Day is relatively new in India but gaining popularity. Families often give flowers, cook their mother's favorite dishes, and spend quality time together. Creative Ways to Celebrate Mother's Day Backyard Picnic: Set up a cozy blanket in the backyard and pack a basket of her favorite snacks. Enjoy an alfresco meal while sharing stories and laughter. Virtual Family Gathering: For those unable to visit in person, organize a virtual family gathering with games and a slideshow to celebrate her. Memory Lane Tour: Take your mom on a tour of meaningful places, like the park where you used to play or her favorite coffee shop. Nostalgia can bring warmth to the day. Cooking Class or Workshop: Sign up together for a fun class, like cooking, painting, or pottery, to bond and create lasting memories. Unique Gift Ideas Personalized Jewelry: Custom necklaces or bracelets with her children's names or birthstones can make a sentimental keepsake. Memory Book: Compile a scrapbook or photo album with family photos, notes, and cherished memories. Spa Package: Treat her to a luxurious spa day, complete with massages, facials, and soothing baths. Subscription Service: Curated subscription boxes deliver gourmet treats, books, or skincare products straight to her door. Top Trending Mother's Day Ideas in 2024 on Amazon Smart Kitchen Gadgets: The latest smart kitchen gadgets, like high-tech blenders or air fryers, are designed to simplify cooking. Fitness Trackers: With features like sleep monitoring and heart-rate tracking, these devices help moms on their wellness journey. Home Aromatherapy Kits: Diffusers paired with essential oils make relaxation more accessible. Self-Care Sets: Curated self-care sets, including bath products, candles, and skincare, are perfect for pampering. Conclusion Mother's Day 2024 is a chance to create beautiful memories and strengthen your bond with the incredible women in your life. There are countless ways to make this year extraordinary, from creative celebrations to thoughtful gifts. Take the opportunity to show your appreciation with love, care, and creativity, and make her feel truly cherished. Love it? Share it! (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles! ✒️ Take me home 🏠 Back to the top ⬆️ Originally Written on: May 11, 2023 Most Recent Update on: May 12, 2024

written by: Daniel Currie Introduction Father's Day 2024 is just around the corner, offering a perfect chance to show appreciation and love for the incredible dads and father figures who enrich our lives. From timeless traditions to the latest trending gift ideas, this guide covers all you need to make this year's celebration truly remarkable. Let's dive into the significance of Father's Day, its storied past, and some creative ways to honor dads everywhere. The Importance of Father's Day Father's Day holds a special place in our hearts as we celebrate the dedication, love, and sacrifices that fathers make daily. The bond between a father and his children is unique, built on countless shared experiences, wisdom, and unwavering support. This day allows us to reflect on and express our gratitude for these men's profound impact on our lives and communities. Traditions and History of Father's Day in the U.S. Father's Day in the United States has its roots in the early 20th century, with the first widespread celebration occurring in 1910, thanks to the efforts of Sonora Smart Dodd. She sought to honor her father, a Civil War veteran who raised six children as a single parent. Officially recognized in 1972, this day continues to be celebrated with gifts, family gatherings, and heartfelt messages expressing appreciation for fathers. 5 Traditions Throughout Other Cultures Father's Day is observed worldwide in various ways, reflecting diverse cultural practices: Germany: Known as "Vatertag," men—nearly any men—can celebrate letting their primitive selves bloom. Men get highly creative with their Bollerwagen (wooden wagons) decorated and loaded with provisions. They then wander in groups, drinking and celebrating, hiking, and enjoying each other's company. Brazil: Celebrated on the second Sunday of August, families gather for a special lunch tailored for their fathers. Following the father's special meal, it's customary for him to take advantage of the day and do the activity of his choice with his family by his side, spending quality time together. Thailand: On December 5th, the day coincides with the King's birthday, known as "The Father of the Nation" for his kindness and compassion towards his family and nation. In addition to ceremonies, parades, and the gifting of yellow flowers, all fathers can travel for free on the BTS (Bangkok Mass Transit System) when accompanied by their children! Japan: Although it is not a public or federal holiday, it is widely celebrated by all families with gifts and quality time together. Uniquely, most presents given to fathers are edible, such as wagashi (Japanese sweets), shochu (Japanese distilled beverage), and sake (Japanese rice wine). Traditionally, most were store-bought or handmade; since the rise of online shopping, gift boxes filled with combinations of treats and items have become more accessible and acceptable. South Africa: Like many cultures, the day is tailored to fathers. In Cape Town, many family-friendly businesses allow fathers free entry for Father's Day. Commonly, families often enjoy the beloved South African pastime, "braai" (barbecue), together at home or with others, honoring fathers with food and quality time. Creative Ways to Celebrate Father's Day 2024 Backyard BBQ: Fire up the grill and prepare a feast of his favorite dishes. Enjoy a laid-back day filled with good food, laughter, and stories. Virtual Game Night: If you can't be together in person, organize a virtual game night with fun challenges and trivia. Memory Scrapbook: Create a scrapbook filled with photos, notes, and mementos that highlight cherished memories. Adventure Day: Plan an outdoor adventure, such as hiking, fishing, or a day at the beach, to enjoy quality time and nature. Cooking Class: Sign up for a cooking class together and learn to make his favorite dishes, bonding over shared culinary experiences. Unique Gift Ideas for Father's Day 2024 Customized Tools: Personalize tools with his name or a special message, combining practicality with sentiment. Gourmet Gift Basket: For a personalized touch, curate a basket with his favorite snacks, beverages, and treats. Tech Gadgets: From smart home devices to the latest in tech accessories, find gadgets that make his life easier and more fun. Experience Vouchers: Give the gift of an experience, like tickets to a sporting event, a concert, or a workshop. Personalized Apparel: Custom T-shirts, caps, or cufflinks with meaningful messages or designs can make great keepsakes. Top Trending Father's Day Ideas in 2024 on Amazon Smart Home Devices: The latest smart home devices, such as smart speakers or automated lighting systems, are perfect for tech-savvy dads. Fitness Equipment: Home workout gear, like adjustable dumbbells or smartwatches, helps dads stay fit and healthy. Outdoor Gear: High-quality camping gear, fishing equipment, or hiking accessories for the adventurous father. Self-Care Kits: Grooming kits and skincare sets tailored for men, providing a touch of luxury and care. Cooking Gadgets: Advanced kitchen gadgets like air fryers, smokers, or sous-vide cookers for dads who love to cook. Wrapping Up Father's Day 2024 offers a wonderful opportunity to create lasting memories and show your dad just how much he means to you. With countless ways to celebrate, from heartfelt traditions to innovative gifts, this year can be exceptional. Take the time to express your appreciation with love, care, and creativity, making him feel genuinely valued. Love it? Share it! (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles! ✒️ Take me home 🏠 Back to the top ⬆️ Originally written on: May 21, 2024 References "Father's Day In Germany-It's NOTHING like American Father's Day!" https://germangirlinamerica.com/fathers-day-in-germany/ "How to Celebrate Father's Day in Brazil" https://www.portuguesepod101.com/blog/2019/07/19/fathers-day/ "Celebrating Fathers Day In Thailand" https://www.bkkkids.com/blog/celebrating-fathers-day-in-thailand/ "Marking The Calendar: When Is Father's Day In Japan 2024?" https://www.bokksu.com/blogs/news/the-essence-of-fatherhood-embracing-fathers-day-in-japan "Father's Day in Cape Town, South Africa!" https://www.littlepassports.com/blog/the-buzz/fathers-day-in-cape-town-south-africa/

This series is designed (but not necessary) to be read chronologically; if you need to catch up or skip ahead, the links below will take you to where you need to go! What Kind R U? Parenting Series: PART I The Big UNcubed Parenting Series: PART II The Great PRO³ - Parenting Series: PART III What THE? - Parenting Series: PART IV HA! HA! HA! - Parenting Series: PART V UNderstand PROblems THEy HAve - Parenting Series: PART VI Throughout this series, we have focused on parenting skills, primarily allowing children to dictate the relationship. Today, we focus on the opposite, where the parents rule over every final decision in the relationship, with the child having little say in any affairs. When this is the case, and most, if not all, of the decisions, are run past the parent needing their approval before allowing the child or teen to do anything, it is typically classified as Authoritarian Parenting. A brief look at the primary characteristics of an Authoritarian Parent: The relationship between parent and child is primarily parent-driven Parents have stringent household rules for their children and harsh punishments to match Child's wants, along with their social and emotional life, come secondary, if ever considered Communication is typically one-way from parent to child, and when the child gets a voice, often it is not taken seriously or is ignored Jump to a section: >>> What THE? >>> THEatrics & THEory behind it >>> THEme of problems = answers in THErapy >>> THEft of growth means a rising THErmostat >>> Conclusion What THE? Sometimes parents wonder, "What the hell was that kid thinking?!" Other times their counterpart, the young minds, are left thinking, "What the heck do I have to do to make my parents happy?!" In an authoritarian family hierarchy, the parent and child seem to butt heads more than any other type of parenting. So I got to thinking, what THE hell is causing this?! Then I discovered it: What THE? THEatrics & THEory behind it In a home with an authoritarian parent, the parent is very much involved in their child's life. Typically it is an excellent thing and can be very beneficial. However, if the parents are not doing this correctly, meaning they do not keep themselves in check and aren't humbled to admit when they are becoming too controlling, it can lead to disaster, as so many times is the case. In an authoritarian relationship, parent-to-child, two things happen: 1) anything the child wants in life, they must go to their parents and either ask for it or permission to do it. 2) What the parent says goes; it becomes law regardless of how the child feels about it. The child's emotional, social, and other "non-essential" elements are often not considered. It boils down to the parents being in utter control of everything from the food eaten, to the friends they can have, to the music they can listen to. It can sound challenging, being under someone else's total control like that. However, the parent believes it's in the child's best interest because the parent has already gone through it (or has been raised that way and found it successful- or doesn't know any other way to raise a child). Therefore, they try to ensure the best path the first time (similar to PROmise & PROmote parenting from my previous post). The primary difference between PROmise & PROmote parenting and an authoritarian is that the authoritarian parent will not do anything for the child. Instead, they push them to achieve it independently while demanding excellence, giving the child the tools for problem-solving, overcoming adversity, and quality work ethics as they age. That's the THEory behind it from the parent's perspective- and it's all true! Unfortunately, the issue with that is yes, the child is learning by doing it; however, it stunts mental, emotional, and social growth. A child needs to be able to explore their likings and preferences to fully nurture them as they grow, which may include, in some instances, situations that the parent may typically say no to. If a parent does not allow their child to explore and enjoy some of their life's little pleasures, it can lead to the child acting out with THEatrics. The THEatrics are what causes parents and children/teens to butt heads so much. When an adolescent feels as though they have tried hard and accomplished a lot- and continue to try and do for their parents but does not get any reward, specifically something they want to do, it cause the child to act out. When this happens, it is primarily out of spite to attempt to make the parents feel miserable like them. THEme of problems = answers in THErapy Most of the time, the THEatrics come in the form of temper tantrums when the child is younger. However, as they grow and reach puberty and teenhood and the parents stand firm in an authoritarian manner, sparks tend to fly more frequently, and outbursts can become more prevalent. It isn't because the teen is trying to irritate their parents purposely; it is more because they lack the mental, emotional, and social necessities that a growing mind needs. Their minds have been developing and changing since a very young age, and they have been learning, imagining, exploring, and dreaming big the entire time. As time continues, so does the itch to explore the potential of new possibilities. Peers (including other issues such as peer pressure) also contribute to the need to want to fill the void and achieve happiness and excitement. This feeling does not come naturally in authoritarian homes, so teens tend to act out more and clash more than the other three major parental categories. As friction builds and the teen develops an attitude, parents blame the child, their friends, and their influences. In the eyes of the parent, the child should be perfect because the parents raised them in their image (or at least the best vision they could imagine). Unfortunately, this is not the case because everybody has their tastes, personalities, and preferences. Between this misinformed mindset (in many cases) and the disposition of an authoritarian parent's firmness in situations, it becomes a common THEme for the parent to find fault in the child. Conversely, the child feels the THEme of their relationship is that they are at fault, but only because they cannot fully understand where the parent is coming from. In a relationship where both parent and child are rather bull-headed regarding their outlook and perspectives on life, THErapy could be required. There are different versions of THErapy, especially since, depending on your background, faith, and beliefs in THErapy, talking with someone may or may not work. Parental Mandate: Parents will take the child to THErapy, even if it's just in hopes the therapist will tell the child the parent is right and they are wrong Child Request: The child/Teen asks for THErapy because they cannot go to anyone for help (one-way communication parent to child) or to ask the therapist for assistance in talking to their parents on their behalf Bonding THErapy: Finding a common fun interest that both the parent and child enjoy, or something nostalgic from happier times, and then taking time to hash issues out Bias THErapy: Talking to someone else, usually another (not immediate) family member, for advice. Considered biased because whoever the "therapist" is, one party or the other will have a prejudiced outcome based on the "therapist's" history with the people or wisdom of situations. THEft of growth means a rising THErmostat Nothing cranks up the THErmostat better than constant fighting while one party yells, punishes, or commands the other to do something they do not want. On the flip side, nothing adds to the twist of the dial, making it even hotter than a young teen who has been severely punished and begins to feel like they have lost all they cherish. That becomes a slippery slope because when young teens start not to care about consequences, they understand (or better put: they feel) they have little left to lose. The parental outlook becomes THEft. The parents take a step back, look at the situation, and believe their child has stolen from them since they are not acting like the child they raised. The parent will begin to feel that all their hard work has been a waste and that their child, who they still love deeply, has stolen their prized sculpture of the "mini-me." Conversely, the child or teen will look into the parent's eyes and think the same: THEft. They will think, "You stole my childhood from me; I was always doing what you wanted." Even when the child realizes and understands much of what their parents have done for them was in their best interest, at that point, it does not justify not allowing them to live their life the way they wanted to. In Conclusion Authoritarian parenting is by far the trickiest of them because of the intricacies of it. An excellent moral system is usually in place, and parenting is typically done in the child's best interest in the long term (prepping them for life/the real world). However, the downfall is not allowing the child to be themselves, stunting personality and emotional growth. The tradeoff is they are now a miniature you, whether they like it or not. Note that "whether they like it or not" is critically dangerous for individuality, self-confidence, and self-worth. Coupled with growing up and frequently clashing, that could be catastrophic if not careful. Continue Reading: PART V - HA! HA! HA! Parenting advice: Raise them with balance Catch up on the series: PART I - What kind R U? Parenting advice: Raise them without being overbearing, absent, or avoiding conflict PART II - The Big UNcubed Parenting advice: Raise them without being absent PART III - The Great PRO³ Parenting advice: Raise them without avoiding conflict Love it? Share it! (links to share below) Make sure they know where it came from #curlystacheblogs 👌 Take me back to more blog articles! ✒️ Take me home 🏠 Back to the top ⬆️

This series is designed (but not necessary) to be read chronologically; if you need to catch up or skip ahead, the links below will take you to where you need to go! What Kind R U? Parenting Series: PART I The Big UNcubed Parenting Series: PART II The Great PRO³ - Parenting Series: PART III What THE? - Parenting Series: PART IV HA! HA! HA! - Parenting Series: PART V UNderstand PROblems THEy HAve - Parenting Series: PART VI This 6-part series began in detail the last post with what it meant to be a neglectful parent. Today we will dive into what it means to parent via the permissive parenting style. Again, as in the previous articles, there is no right or wrong way to parent. Every family is unique on its own, and every family comes from a different origin, making it one of a kind. Never should any family fit such a strict formula originating from psychologists and professors; let this guide what you as a parent want to be or don't want to be. Nevertheless, let's take a quick review of the characteristics of permissive parenting (the first of the four permissive "PROper characteristics") before turning the nuts and bolts: Parent/child relationship is primarily child-driven (Over)indulges their child with rewards to dodge conflicts There are very few rules; they are very inconstantly enforced or not enforced at all Parents are very nourishing to their children but find it challenging to impose limitations and boundaries Jump to a section: >>> The Great PRO³ >>> PROcreate & PROtect >>> PROmise & PROmote >>> PROcrastinate, PROlong, & PROtest >>> PROper Characteristics >>> Conclusion The Great PRO³ As stated, professionals worldwide have come up with four primary classifications for parenting styles. This post will concentrate on the one called permissive parenting. Upon research and to better understand what it means to be a permissive parent, I have broken it into three subcategories that make up The Great PRO³. PROcreate & PROtect The only type of parenting that works with infants and babies is permissive parenting because we, as parents, do not know what our children are trying to tell us unless we can pick up on the cues. As a parent, in this instance, we must ensure the spotlight is brightly centered on them and tend to their every want and need because there is no established 2-way communication yet. New parents that want to PROcreate also have the instinct to want to PROtect their "mini-mes" at all costs. The fact that they want to do this while they cannot understand them (infants or babies who cannot speak yet) is exceptional parenting. As they become toddlers and young children, they learn speech vocabulary and other forms of formal communication skills that allow us parents to know what is wrong or what they want. Once that begins to happen, parents need to understand that the spotlight should start coming off of the child and become a "shared spotlight" between both parent and child since they can communicate now. The issue with the PROcreate & PROtect type parenting begins when a parent continues to "baby" a child when they are old enough to talk, understand, comprehend, and hold a conversation. The parent still sees them as their "baby"; however, this behavior hinders the child from growing emotionally. What will happen is that the child will expect particular (usually more complex) obstacles completed for them, or if they want to avoid doing a specific duty, the parent tends to allow it to slide. Generally speaking, to an outsider looking in, the child appears spoiled or lacks responsibility. As you continue to do for the child, it could lead to outbursts in a social setting, difficulties making friends, and expecting to be pampered by others, especially authority figures (i.e., teachers in school). PROmise & PROmote Permissive parenting starts with PROcreate & PROtect, as all parenting should; however, if overnourished and parenting becomes "overdone" as they get older whereas the parent is still doing or helping the child in ways they should learn to do or deal with on their own, it can lead to dependency issues. Dependence issues can become more prominent when they become teenagers, whereas parents continue to nurture their wants and needs. Parents will PROmise the road ahead with techniques such as the "lawn mower" parent (also known as "snow plow parenting" or "bulldozer parenting"), and parents will PROmote the child's desires with the Helicopter Parenting technique. Helicopter Parenting: As the name suggests, the parent is overly involved in the child or teen's life with a bird's eye view to navigate them around obstacles to ensure their success. Lawn Mower / Snow Plow / Bulldozer Parenting: The modern-day upgrade from Helicopter Parenting. Rather than watching and navigating, the child is the driver of the lawn mower (snow plow or bulldozer). Wherever they want to go in life, the parent actively mows or plows anything in its way to ensure no interfering, micromanaging, or arranging. Doing this protects the child or teen from adversity, disappointment, discomfort, and failure. Both the Helicopter and Lawn Mower parenting styles found in PROmise & PROmote are hazardous to the growth of a young teen. It can lead to dependency, as described already, and the inability to manage failures or conflicts as an adult. Depending on their self-esteem, this could lead to emotional stress, depression, or other mental problems. Furthermore, social cues and relationships could also be affected due to their possible narcissism from always being correct as a child and teen because the parents made sure of it. PROcrastinate, PROlong, & PROtest The final subtype of permissive parenting is the most common of the three. In this situation, the parent (or parents) love and adore their children with all their hearts; however, their tolerance for childish behaviors or attitudes is very little. The parent sets rules and chores and raises the child on a good set of morals- everything they can do to be the best parent they can be; the problem is the child disapproves of the rules, chores, and morals in place. Yes, in some instances, there are medical issues with the child (or even the parent), making it difficult for the child to maintain a certain level of calmness (or the parent dealing with stress, etc.). Still, in most cases, it is everyday family stress. After fighting and reasoning with their child, the parent finally PROtests and gives in to the child's demands or wants/needs. Even after that, it doesn't seem to change for the better, so after PROlonging and PROcrastinating, hoping for the best, the parent gives up, not wanting to deal with the child or teen's behavior. From that point on, the parent lets it go, and the child/teen gets what they want when they want. Because the parent does love the child very much and is just struggling with their behavior, they will occasionally (if not frequently) attempt to instill the rules, chores, or morals. Unfortunately, when the child or teen gets punished for not doing something or disobeying, the punishment goes without being enforced to avoid more conflict. PROper Characteristics Now that we looked into permissive parenting a little bit more, here are the final four PROper characteristics of permissive parenting that can help identify a parent raising a child in this manner: The child is always right: The child is always right if there is a difference between them and another person (regardless of trustworthiness or authority figure) unless there is proof, regardless of how ridiculous it may sound (in the case of "PROcrastinate, PROlong, & PROtest" models it is usually to avoid conflict with the child/teen) Excessive Pampering: What the child wants the child gets, whether it be for simple comforts, to further boost their self-esteem/self-worth, to get their way, or to get them to stop their temper tantrum Equals: When looking from the outside inward, it would almost appear as though the parent and child are equal instead of the parent parenting and the child being the child Sense of Arrogance: In the "PROcreate & PROtect" and "PROmise & PROmote" models, there is a sense of both parent and child having some arrogance or conceited (child: gets what they want / parent: paving the way, overly proud of their child and that they were able to pave the way for them) / in the "PROcrastinate, PROlong, & PROtest" model the child has the sense of arrogance or being conceited. In contrast, the parent feels defeated and disrespected. In Conclusion If you find yourself parenting in The Great PRO³ realm, nothing is wrong with that! It shows compassion for the young mind, including the ability to think for oneself, have imagination, and believe they can do whatever they want. However, this has some definite downfalls that need to be addressed, specifically concerning the child or teen becoming dependent on others. The trick is to take the precious pieces from this and mold them with your unique style ensuring you keep the unwanted pitfalls out! Continue Reading: PART IV - What THE? Parenting advice: Raise them without being overbearing Catch up on the series: PART I - What kind R U? Parenting advice: Raise them without being overbearing, absent, or avoiding conflict PART II - The Big UNcubed Parenting advice: Raise them without being absent Love it? Share it! 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