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written by: Daniel Currie editing and proofreading reviewed by: Jacasa Currie Guiding Teenagers Bite-Size 3-minute Blogs, best known as GT Mashups No fancy formats. Opinionated. Based On Facts. Enjoy the Podcast wherever you listen; just search Guiding Teenagers or check it out HERE ! I've talked about my daughter quite a few times over the dozens of blogs; she is a spitfire that I adore for everything she has become and so much more. She is passionate, fiery, stubborn, and fun. She shares her dad's horrible immatureness and bad sense of humor that many may despise and find vulgar. She is her father's daughter through and through. We have a relationship like many fiery daughters and immature fathers. We love each other without showing a lot of affection, but conversely, we have this unbreakable bond that nobody could ever break, let alone try to understand. Some may even dare to say it's complicated. It's not complicated to us. The only thing that can be complicated is the amount of slack I give her. No, I'm not talking about how long of a leash I give her regarding our relationship, and how she (well, we) behave, or our feelings towards each other, or whatnot. I'm talking about my little girl growing up while this dad starts to watch from the sideline. Sometimes, it's soul-crushing to know I'm no longer as important as I may have once been. Even then, it's very rewarding to know she is walking her own path, independent and uncompromising , not following in anybody's shoes, not even mine. How is a father supposed to let go? I know I must let her grow and mature on her own, but there is no way in hell I am just "letting go." This father will not sit by and let her go unguided and undisciplined . I love my little girl too much to see her potentially slip down a rabbit's hole when I could be there for her as I always have. While weighing my options, another somewhat obvious thought crossed my mind: Should I lay down the law and instill a slew of rules to better protect her? After all, she's just going into high school, and there is so much that can happen. She may not be ready for all that's to come, and she could use some rigid rules for guidance. On one hand, it felt too hot, and on the other, it felt too cold. I needed "just right." I didn't want to be totally transparent, where she could do whatever she wanted, whenever she wanted, like I wasn't even there and didn't care. Permissive parenting , or neglectful parenting, is not something I'm into; I just could never see myself not having that unique bond anymore, guiding her in her times of need. Chewing the thought around some more, I realized I certainly did not want to be this massive stone wall, either, locking her in a jail cell of rules. How are teens really supposed to learn without falling here and there? After all, that's what a dad is supposed to do! Help them back up from their fall, dust them off, and tell them to keep trying. I've always felt this solid, stone-wall approach is not necessarily the correct way, either. The problem with too many rules is that teens are much more likely to rebel since they are not fully mature yet. Regardless of how good intentions may be, until the teen sees that, the reason does not matter; it takes maturing. In contrast, by pampering them (putting it bluntly), whether by helicopter parenting or by having too many lenient house rules, they may stumble when they reach adulthood and face "real-life" rules, as all of us adults know! I came to the realization translucent parenting is critical. I needed to be there, to guide and help her—but crucially, I needed to let her live her life. I felt it was vital for her to know I was there for her no matter the rhyme or reason, yet I refused to obstruct her views and goals in life. There was no way in hell I wanted to prevent my little girl from fully blooming into a beautiful woman full of life and personality. I refused to hinder her development or slow her down; she is too good for that, and I love her for WHO SHE IS, not who others want her to be. Not only did I want her to know that her dreams and passions were always within reach and that she could achieve them, but I also needed her to know that I was THERE for her—not transparent or uninvolved, but always there for her, no matter what. Furthermore, she must understand that I am not that impenetrable stone wall either, where she feels her dad had become this dictator, stating, "It's for your best," not allowing her much independent decision-making, originality, and individualism. My little girl needs to understand I am there when it's needed—when she needs Dad to help her back up, to dust her off, and to tell her, "It's alright, let's try again." In this translucent style, I'm only there when she starts to veer too close to the edge, guiding her and keeping her on the straight and narrow. That Goldilocks zone is known as being a translucent parent. Translucent parenting means allowing your teens to flourish independently as you foster their growth. Allowing them to learn from their mistakes based on the morals and beliefs you've instilled in them from a young age. It isn't about turning a blind eye or crossing your fingers, hoping for the best. In contrast, it isn't about controlling and clearing the path for them. It's about relinquishing control in a very smooth, fluid method so that when they become young adults and are on their own, they don't even realize you are there anymore. Here's the bottom line: Be mindful that in order for your teens to mature properly, they must have guidance. Guidance does not mean being careless or rigid. It means helping your teen to achieve their dreams while keeping them on the straight and narrow. It's allowing your teen to experience the world, discover their likes and dislikes, realize their passions, and be comfortable without judgment. The Translucent Parent: The Perfect Balance — The Podcast Love it? Share it!  (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles !  ✒️ Take me home  🏠 Back to the top  ⬆️ Originally Written on: July 6, 2024

written by: Jacasa Currie editing and proofreading reviewed by: Daniel Currie Let's welcome Blooming Thoughts Blogs, Jacasa, and her inspiring perspectives, with her first post of many to come here in Guiding Teenagers! Last week we looked at understanding how to support gay teens. This week, we take a look at the point of view of a teen themselves. Let’s take a look at a conversation I had with a teen close to me. I asked her 10 questions, all pertaining to her life as a lesbian teen. Let’s take a look at her experiences and perspectives. For this week's blog, we are focusing on acceptance, specifically for the LGBTQ+ community. I took the time to interview someone very close to me who is a lesbian teen. She weighed in on some questions that I feel can be helpful to parents of teens who have come out and teens themselves. I myself am bisexual, but I have never really officially come out to family or anyone who has not accepted that, so I did not feel fit to answer said questions. Take a look at how this teen spoke out about her experiences. 1.  How did coming out change your life? As someone who took a long time to fully come out due to the unfortunate backlash of it, it was a very frustrating and long process because it changed the way people view and interact with me. It was much easier for people around me to accept me when I was out, and fitting in was already difficult as I was a quiet kid. So, for a very long time, I hid my feelings and only came out to close friends and family as it made it easier for me to get around in a socially strict environment where you had to fit in with the other kids at school or else you didn't belong. But soon, that started to weigh on my own personal relationships, and it became so frustrating to try and fit in while trying to be myself around my partner. Eventually, I stopped caring about how others felt about my sexuality and instead worried about the people who have my back rather than the ones who don't. In turn, I've found my core group of people who understand and accept me and have helped me flourish as a person.  2.  When you came out, were there people who did not approve, and how did you deal/cope with that? When I first came out, I, unfortunately, dealt with a lot of backlash, and there were a lot of people, and still are a lot of people, who don't accept me. For a while, it really did get to me and caused me to recede angrily back into the closet to try to fit back in and regain popularity in my school, as I became a social reject. Slowly, over the years, I began to realize that it was more taxing for me to pretend to be someone for everyone's benefit rather than actually enjoying my life. Soon, my frustration towards those who didn't accept me turned into determination to try and educate those who are willing to understand and make up for wrongdoings in the past. Now, I aspire to enjoy every second with my partner and pave a better world for people I care about. I simply live my life and mind my business, just as I wish others could. 3.  What challenges do you face daily? Being that I am still a student, bullying is very prominent and still a large issue that I deal with on a near-daily basis. Simply holding my partner's hand, being of the same sex, causes us to be followed, jeered at, and mocked. Although it irritates me, and I want to snap back, instead, I laugh it off and keep enjoying my time with my partner as I planned to do before an encounter. There are very few public spaces where I can be affectionate with my partner without being confronted, which is frustrating as it's only one of the inconveniences that are thrown at us. 4.  What do you wish that the people who are not allies could understand? I wish people who don't accept would understand that sexuality is like a sandwich. I personally prefer ham on my sandwich and I don't like turkey on my sandwich. My close friend prefers turkey and doesn't like ham. It would be silly to hate my friend for liking turkey because that's their preference, and it's truly not that big of a deal. I don't need to forced my friend to like ham, because they simply don't like ham and might never like it. Not everyone has to like ham; that's why likes and dislikes are something we dive into our early years so we have a better understanding when we're older. Personal preference differs in everyone, not everyone is going to like the same thing. So, in all, you don't have to agree with someone's sexuality, but it's a huge waste of your time to create an issue or hate someone because you don't agree with them. Instead, spend time on something meaningful like family or making the world a better place around you and the people you care about, or build a rocket if you want. 5.  In your opinion, what does it mean to be an ally? An ally, I feel, is someone who simply accepts those around them for who they are regardless of race, sexuality, gender, religion, etc. I personally feel its very simply to become an ally, even as someone who previously wronged another because of who they are. As long as you can learn to understand and accept those around you and strive to correct and prevent wrongdoings from happening again.  6.  What advice can you give to someone who is afraid to come out? Take your time, and don't push yourself to do something that puts you in an uncomfortable position. You don't have to lie to the world about your sexuality, but you don't have to tell anyone, either. Your love life is for you and future partners to worry about, so everyone else in between doesn't have to know anything. Of course, if you're in a dangerous situation and your parents or guardian needs to know details to help you, be sure to know your trusted adults and only say what your comfortable with and what will help you in this situation. Once or if you're ready to finally step out of the closet, take a deep breath and remember that it could be a long road ahead, but as long as you have people you can rely on and a determination to live your life freely, you really will be okay, and you will learn to just do your own thing and live your best life while you're still young. 7.  How do you figure out who you are? What advice can you give to someone who is trying to figure out their sexuality? When I was young, I never really understood the concept of relationships, and I didn't understand dating or relationships. I viewed relationships and friendships to be at an equal status, and I never felt that spark between anyone I'd been with, which at that point, was only males. Eventually, upon being introduced to new people, I met a girl. We started dating, which, before then, I didn't even think about as an option. I began to realize I was attracted to women. For a while, I considered myself bisexual because I felt I could be with a man if I really tried, but after many years, I considered how I would feel in different situations or aspects of a relationship depending on what gender I was with. After a very long time of debating how I would feel, I realized that I wasn't comfortable being in a relationship with a man in more aspects than one. On the other hand, my attraction towards women grew. I found more comfort in women than I did in men, and I tried and failed with my dating life for a bit until I met one of my best friends. I felt an overwhelming desire to be by her side, and I then found the spark I'd never felt before. I was just incredibly happy just to hear her voice. We got together and had some hiccups along the way, but despite that, my love for her never changed, but my attraction grew by the second. Being with her confirmed my identity, and since I have felt very strongly that I am attracted to women. 8.  Do you think that sexuality is linked to mental health? In a way, yes? I don't feel my mental health had much effect on my sexuality, but instead, I do feel my sexuality has had an impact on my mental health. 9.  If yes, how so? The stigma towards being gay impacted my self-image, and I eventually began to feel wrong for loving the people I loved. It began to weigh on me and impact my relationships before I regained control of myself. 10. What advice can you give someone who is struggling with their mental health due to backlash from coming out? Take your time! It's okay to go back in the closet and come back out when you're ready again. If you're ready but still suffering from backlash, explore yourself and your sexuality, find like-minded people, and find your support group. It can be friends, family, coworkers, whoever makes you feel comfortable to be yourself. Finding people who can support your through difficult times are crucial pushing through and handing backlash. They should motivate you to be yourself and raise you up when you feel unaccepted.  In Conclusion After reading these responses over and over, I feel evermore certain that this blog is important and feel the need to reach many people with it. These days, no one should have to hide who they are. They should be allowed to be who they are and be accepted. But there will always be people who choose not to accept them. So, all we can do is help support our teens through that backlash and to support them as a person. It can be scary to come out, and even if we don't understand or accept it, they should still feel loved no matter what. Love it? 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written by: Jacasa Currie editing and proofreading reviewed by: Daniel Currie Let's welcome Jacasa of Blooming Thoughts officially with a special edition blog where she allows you to pull back the veil to see what makes her tick! Enjoy the Podcast wherever you listen; just search Guiding Teenagers or check it out here ! Hello, everyone. My name is Jacasa. I am the newest member of Guiding Teenagers. I also have my own blog, Blooming Thoughts . I decided to join the Guiding Teenagers blog when Dan asked me to be a guest blogger. He asked me if I would be interested in joining full-time, so I said yes. Fun fact: We are actually cousins!   I was asked to join because of my writings in my personal blog and also based on my experience with kids/teens. I have worked in schools and am also getting my degree in teaching for elementary school. I have an associate degree in early childhood education from Morrisville State College. I am currently attending SUNY Oneonta . I feel as though I have a lot to offer the Guiding Teenagers blog due to my education and experience, and I am excited to have joined the team. Personally, I am 27 (28 in September). I live with my fiancé, our four dogs, three cats, and our turtle. I enjoy gardening, reading, sewing, bird watching, camping, hiking, kayaking, and really just anything outside. I sometimes say that I am kind of an old lady since I enjoy lots of the things that old ladies enjoy. But I think that they are all quality hobbies. So, why did I decide to become a teacher? I decided to become a teacher because growing up, I was influenced by my teachers and oftentimes was closer to the teachers than my peers. I struggled socially since I was very shy, which is much different from how I am now. I remember I had one specific teacher who really helped me. I took chemistry my Junior year. I failed every single test that I took. My teacher, instead of just letting me fail, took the time to stay after school with me every single day and look over those tests and retake them. I passed the class and the regents. I have never forgotten that. I plan to be the same kind of teacher. I also feel as though teachers are super important. People do not understand how important teachers are. We are teaching children everything. Sometimes even teaching them values. When COVID hit, I was working in the school, and we had switched to virtual learning. Many parents couldn't understand how we did this every single day. That was the first time people really started to appreciate teachers. I also feel strongly that we are shaping the next generation, and if we want them to be successful, we have to guide them in the right direction. Going to school is a little more difficult for me as an adult than it is for people who attend right out of high school. I cannot just go to class. I also have to work, as I have a car and a house. I do feel as though it helps me to better appreciate my education because I know how much it sucks to work dead-end jobs. Right out of high school, I attended Cazenovia College, which has since closed, for graphic design. I realized that I did not want to use that degree, and so I took time off. I worked in retail and hated it. I realized that I did not want to work at a job that I hated every single day. So, I decided to go back to college. I changed my mind many times; at one point, I wanted to be a Physical Therapist Assistant just like my Uncle (Guiding Teenager's Dan Currie's dad), but then I changed my mind to an x-ray technician. But I felt like none of those were really what I wanted to do. So, after some more switching around and soul-searching, I decided to do what I had always wanted to do, which was to be a teacher.  When I was growing up, I used to line up all my dolls at my grandma's house and teach them everything I learned that day. I loved the idea of being a teacher. Knowledge is power, and I could provide that to people. I never pursued teaching due to others telling me it wasn't worth it because teachers don't get paid a lot, and it is a high-stress job. But, it was my passion to work with kids and teach so I decided it was time to do this for me. When I started my degree and started working with kids, I realized that I had found my niche. I absolutely love it. I am not working in schools right now because the school schedule does not allow me to work during the day, which is unfortunate. So, for the moment, I work at Mcdonalds, which I do enjoy. Along with teaching, I also decided to minor in Educational Psychology; when I took childhood psychology, I was fascinated. I myself have had a lot of issues in mental health, which started in childhood/teens, so I feel as though I could help those kids to intercept their problems early to help them in their adult lives. I plan to teach for a little while, then go back and get a psychology degree so that I can be a child psychologist or a counselor. I feel as though I could really help kids that way. On the blog front, I decided to make my own blog to share my experiences with the world. I have been through a lot in my life. I actually had started a blog a while back that was about the same things, but I decided I was not mentally ready to share those things yet. I had quite a large following, so I told myself I would get back to when I got better. Now, I have "graduated" from therapy and feel strong enough to handle it. So, I started my blog back up. I have written a few blogs. One was about my experiences, and a few others on various topics. My goal for my blog is to reach people who have suffered from mental illness or have dealt with PTSD or domestic abuse in the current times or the past. They are hard things to deal with, and I feel as though my experiences could help people. I also want to be able to interact with my readers. It is extremely hard to get people to interact with my blogs, but I just hope that people continue to tune in. I also wanted to add a bit about why I started gardening because it is something super important to me. At one point, I had moved in with my grandmother because my grandfather had passed, and she was struggling to be by herself. She was very into gardening and had always tried to get me to garden with her when I was younger, but I wanted nothing to do with it. So, as I got older and was living with her, she needed help with her garden. I started helping and ended up falling in love with it. I felt as though it was really helping me with my anxiety, which I was really struggling with at the time. It is also rewarding to plant something and watch it grow especially every year. When I moved, I took every single plant with me to my new house. After my grandmother passed away, my garden became even more important to me. I cry every single year that my lilies bloom because I used to give them to her on Mother's Day every year. Now, they bloom in my garden, a little piece of her. I also have an obsession with indoor plants. I created my own office, and in it, there are many plants. I think like 20, I don't know, I haven't counted. My fiance says I have a problem, but I think he is just jealous that I have a green thumb, and he doesn't. Here is me with my unbloomed lily. It grew to be over 5 ft tall! I also highly suggest that people who have anxiety try reading if they haven't already. I feel as though it takes me to a whole other world, and I can forget about my problems for a little while. I try to read every single day. I read on my breaks at work and when I get home before I go to bed. It is really relaxing and can really calm you down. There are so many genres and different books out there that everyone could find something they enjoy. I also enjoy reading books that have movies out because I like to watch the movies and compare (the book is always better than the movie). Check out what I am reading now: I also really enjoy photography! I started a photography business a while ago. I really enjoy taking photos. My favorite photos to take are close-up wildlife photos. I feel as though I am really good at that. I do take pictures of people as well, which is where the business side comes in. I have done a lot of one-on-one photoshoots, a senior photo shoot, a maternity, and a newborn shoot. If you or anyone you know are interested in getting a photoshoot done, let me know. I offer affordable pricing! My business is called Jacasa June Photography. Interested and looking for your next photographer? Inquire with Jacasa June Photography - email here ! Enjoy one of my favorite photos I have ever taken: Now that I have bored you all with reading my very long post, I shall finish up. I really enjoy writing and hope you guys can enjoy my writing as well. I am excited to have joined the Guiding Teenagers blog and podcast, and I look forward to the journey ahead. If you did not check out last week's blog post, please check it out, I wrote it! I think it will resonate with many. And also, check out my blog at https://bloomingthoughtsjjc.blogspot.com/ Blooming Thoughts: Passion Viewed Through the Eyes of Jacasa — The Podcast Love it? Share it!  (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles !  ✒️ Take me home  🏠 Back to the top  ⬆️ Originally Written on: July 3, 2024

written by: Jacasa Currie editing and proofreading by: Daniel Currie Enjoy the Podcast wherever you listen; just search Guiding Teenagers or check it out HERE ! While I was in college studying Early Childhood Education for my associate degree, I took a child development. In this class, I learned about attachment theory. This fascinated me, among other things I learned. There are 4 types of attachment that are originally formed as babies but continue to develop throughout childhood. The good news is you can change parenting behaviors to curb this. The four types of attachments are secure, anxious, avoidant-dismissive, and disorganized. Let’s go through the characteristics and how it can affect adult relationships/adult lives. Table of Contents ► Understanding Attachment Theory: Secure ► Understanding Attachment Theory: Anxious ► Understanding Attachment Theory: Avoidant-dismissive ► Understanding Attachment Theory: Disorganized ► To Achieve Successful Attachments: Secure ► To Achieve Successful Attachments: Anxious ► To Achieve Successful Attachments: Avoidant-dismissive ► To Achieve Successful Attachments: Disorganized ► Conclusion Understanding Attachment Theory: Secure Often times these children feel they are safe and supported by caregivers. This is the type of parent that is strived for. As babies, these children become upset when caregivers leave, but then are comforted when they return, and their caregiver’s presence calms them. In adult relationships they are more likely to maintain healthy relationships. Understanding Attachment Theory: Anxious This is also known as preoccupied attachment or anxious-ambivalent attachment. This is a form of insecure attachment. This happens when the caregiver is inconsistent. The child typically isn’t sure when the caregiver will be emotionally and physically available to them. As babies, they are harder to comfort when crying. In adult relationships they are “needy” or “clingy” and often times not trusting. They become worried that their partner will leave them and need constant reassurance. Understanding Attachment Theory: Avoidant-dismissive This type of person is usually seen as a loner. They are more likely to not delve into emotional conversations. In childhood they had experienced a lack of emotional support or connections. This child was provided with the psychical needs but not emotional comfort, therefore they learn to rely on others for their emotional needs. In adult relationships they are self-reliant and emotionally guarded. They are unlikely to seek emotional comfort or understand how to comfort their partner. Understanding Attachment Theory: Disorganized This is also known as fearful-avoidant attachment. This is the most extreme and least common attachment style. These individuals usually act irrationally, are unpredictable or intense in their relationships. This is formed from trauma/fear in childhood. They had an erratic or incoherent relationship with their primary caregiver. As adults they can develop mental health disorders and/or personality disorders. In adult relationships they experience unhealthy relationships where they crave close relationships but push others away once shown attention. Now let’s discuss how to use parenting to avoid/achieve these . To Achieve Successful Attachments: Secure Like mentioned earlier, this is the one that we are trying to achieve. Ways to do this is to be involved in their lives. It is important to be emotionally available to them whenever they need comforting. It is important to show up to various events in the child’s life so that they feel that presence and feel cared about. If there are babies in the picture it is important to comfort them when they are crying and upset, as hard as that can be at times. To Achieve Successful Attachments: Anxious To avoid this attachment style, it would be important to make yourself readily available to them emotionally. Although making sure they are provided for psychically is important, children need the emotional support just as much. Trying to keep an open line of communication is as always important as well. Just being there for the child is extremely important. To Achieve Successful Attachments: Avoidant-dismissive This one like the last one focuses mostly on the emotional aspect of things. For this one it is also important to create that close personal relationship with your child. Have daily conversations and even if you are not actually interested in what they are, still ask about it. Make sure they feel that they are important in your life. Always communicate with them to create that open line of communication. To Achieve Successful Attachments: Disorganized This one should be easy to avoid. However, sometimes we find ourselves in unsafe/abusive situations. In those situations, even if the person you are with is not hurting your child, they are witnessing you getting hurt whether it be mentally or physically or both, and that in turn hurts and effects them. It is important to get yourself out of those situations. If you are the one who is being unsafe/abusive then it is important to find immediate help for yourself. Even if that means you may have to distance yourself while you get better, this is still better for the child in the long run. If this has to happen, it is important to continue to communicate with your child (if possible). In Conclusion It may seem like some of this is extreme, but the little things that parents do every day affects their child. Sometimes there are things that we do that we don’t even realize we are doing such as telling the child to go play and not engaging in how their days were. Those little things will go a long way in ensuring their success and avoiding the negative attachment styles they could develop. — Jacasa Currie, AAS, ECE Understanding Attachment Theory: How to Achieve Successful Attachment — The Podcast Love it? Share it!  (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles !  ✒️ Take me home  🏠 Back to the top  ⬆️ Originally Written on: July 10, 2024

written by: Daniel Currie Introduction to Teen Screen Time Management Navigating screen time for teens in today's digital age is a significant challenge for many parents—practically a nightmare at times. As digital devices become more essential in everyday life, it's crucial to find a balance that promotes and boosts our teens' well-being while allowing them to benefit from technology. Enter screen time management. I've put together a simple, fundamental guide exploring effective strategies for managing screen time to help you support your teen in developing and maintaining healthy digital habits. Table of Contents ► Understanding the Consequences of Too Much Screen Time ► Screen Time Trends: What the Latest Data Reveals ► Proven Strategies for Effective Screen Time Management ► Balancing Digital and Physical Activities for Teens ► Expert Tips on Screen Time Management for Teens ► Online Free Resources ► Must-Have Material Resources ► FAQs ► Conclusion Understanding the Consequences of Too Much Screen Time First off, it's vital to understand that excessive screen time can lead to several negative impacts on our teens, even if only minor impacts initially. These include physical, mental, and emotional health issues. For example, I noticed when Khloé, my spirited teen, spent too much time on her phone, her mood and sleep patterns became more erratic compared to after I put simple limits on her phone usage. Research and studies have shown that prolonged use of screens can be associated with sleep disturbances, eye strain, and reduced physical activity. Additionally, it can contribute to increased anxiety, depression, and social isolation. Despite texts showing that social isolation is affected, I personally struggle with that because screens have become the number one way of communication with peers. The jury is still out... Regardless, understanding these consequences is the first step in implementing effective screen time management strategies. Screen Time Trends: What the Latest Data Reveals Data and trends show screen time is only getting worse, causing parents to cry out for some type of screen time management solution. According to the Pew Research Center, nearly 38% of parents and teens frequently argue about phone use. I suppose it's not too surprising if you've ever visited my house for more than a day at a time. The data also reveals that parents of younger teens (13-14 years old) are more likely to monitor their children's screen, limiting it as needed, than parents of older teens. It made sense. A good buddy of mine implemented screen time limits early on with his 13-year-old. He explained to me his reasoning and how it seemed to help. He went on to state it led to fewer fights or conflicts about their phone use since everybody involved knew exactly what was expected. This trend emphasizes the importance of early intervention in developing healthy screen habits. Proven Strategies for Effective Screen Time Management Effectively achieving screen time management strategies will require unwavering dedication to the cause. This includes establishing crystal clear guidelines for your teen while encouraging or fostering healthy digital habits. Here are the top four proven strategies to help you become as effective as possible with screen time management: Set Screen Time Limits Establish daily or weekly screen time limits to ensure a balanced routine. Suggest Offline Activities Encourage your teen to participate in activities that do not involve screens, such as reading, sports, or hobbies. Getting involved with them is a great idea, too! Setup Tech-Free Zones or Times Designate specific areas of the home, such as the dining room, as tech-free zones. In addition, encourage certain times in a room to be tech-free, like the living room in the evening for family game night. "Follow the Leader" Children and teens always respond to actions over words. This is when "practice what you preach" is essential. Show them you strongly believe in what you tell them: limit your own screen time. We created a tech-free zone in our dining room to show my children the importance of this and to ensure they see I follow the same rules. This further enriches family interaction during meals and reduces overall screen time. Balancing Digital and Physical Activities for Teens Finding a balance between digital and physical activities is crucial for your teens' overall well-being. Encourage participation in sports, urge outdoor activities, and suggest social interactions that do not involve screens. This balance helps maintain physical health while fostering social skills and emotional health, reducing potential negative impacts from excessive screen time. For example, it proved to be a blessing when I enrolled my middle teen in a local soccer league. The soccer league not only reduced his screen time (one of my main goals!), but he also built new friendships, found a new passion, and became a physical fitness beast. It was clearly a win-win! Expert Tips on Screen Time Management for Teens Now that we've heard my piece, backed with facts, what are other experts saying we should do about screen time management? Here are several tips for managing screen time effectively, as seen by other professionals: Communicate Openly Discuss the importance of balanced screen use with your teens and involve them in setting screen time rules. Use Technology Wisely Leverage parental control apps and settings to monitor and manage screen time. Encourage Self-Regulation Teach teens to be mindful of their screen use and to take breaks regularly. As stated in many other blogs , I have always advocated for communication and offering wisdom, which is practically a sacred rule in our household. While I do not utilize monitoring tools (there is no need to currently, and there is no reason not to trust my teens), a few of my colleagues do utilize parental control apps that help monitor their teen's screen time to ensure they take regular breaks, swearing by it. They have all seen a significant reduction in screen-related stresses, confirming the importance of breaks. Regardless, every family is different, and only you can make the right choice for your teens. Resources for Better Screen Time Management I have included some resources, easily accessed online (links included), to further help you manage your teen's screen time effectively while offering parental insight: Common Sense Media Offers reviews and advice on age-appropriate media. American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry : Provides guidelines and statistics on screen time for children and teens. Family Media Plan Tool : Helps families create personalized media plans. Must-Have Resources for Screen Time Management In addition, I would like to offer 4 pieces of literature that go in-depth further, in addition to 5 FAQs below. Each of these pieces specializes in ways to navigate the digital world and social media, elaborating on the essential parenting dos and don'ts: The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place by Andy Crouch This book provides practical advice on managing technology in the home. It encourages families to create tech-free spaces and times. Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World [2nd Edition] by Devorah Heitner Devorah Heitner offers a comp rehensive guide for parents to help their children navigate the digital world responsibly. Raising Humans in a Digital World: Helping Kids Build a Healthy Relationship with Technology by Diana Graber This book is filled with insights and tips on how to raise children who are tech-savvy but not tech-dependent. Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World by Cal Newport Although not exclusively about parenting, this book provides valua ble insights into how reducing digital clutter can improve overall well-being. Common Questions About Screen Time Management (FAQs!) How much screen time is too much? Experts recommend limiting recreational screen time to no more than two hours per day. How can I enforce screen time limits without causing conflicts? Involve your teen in creating a screen time plan and establish consistent, reasonable rules. Are educational screens okay? While educational content can be beneficial, balancing it with offline activities is still vital. What are some signs that my teen is spending too much time on screens? Signs include decreased physical activity, trouble sleeping, irritability, and declining academic performance. How can I encourage my teen to engage in more offline activities? Offer a variety of offline activities that align with their interests, such as sports, arts, or volunteering—get involved with them! In Conclusion: Encouraging Healthy Digital Habits in Teens Helping your teen develop healthy digital habits is all about consistent effort and open communication. Encourage them to take regular breaks from screens, making sure offline activities come first. By setting a good example and being supportive, you will guide your teen toward a balanced approach to screen time that boosts their well-being and overall growth. Stick to these tips and strategies, and you'll be well on your way to helping your teen manage their screen time and lead a healthier, more balanced life. Love it? Share it!  (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles !  ✒️ Take me home  🏠 Back to the top  ⬆️ Originally Written on: May 29, 2024 References How Teens and Parents Approach Screen Time https://www.pewresearch.org/internet/2024/03/11/how-teens-and-parents-approach-screen-time/ Parents, Young Adult Children and the Transition to Adulthood https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2024/01/25/parents-young-adult-children-and-the-transition-to-adulthood/ Peer pressure or influence: pre-teens and teenagers https://raisingchildren.net.au/teens/behaviour/peers-friends-trends/peer-influence Social media brings benefits and risks to teens. Psychology can help identify a path forward https://www.apa.org/monitor/2023/09/protecting-teens-on-social-media#:~:text=URL%3A%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.apa.org%2Fmonitor%2F2023%2F09%2Fprotecting,100 Ratings and Reviews Parents Trust https://www.commonsensemedia.org/ Teens Prefer Screens To People https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/teens-prefer-screens-people-aaron-paquette/

written by: Daniel Currie Introduction: Sibling Issues Have you ever seen a minor sibling dispute spiral out of control? Today, we dive into a story that many will find familiar, yet shocking in its consequences. While often dismissed as typical childhood squabbles, these disputes can sometimes have lasting psychological and physical effects. This narrative explores a day in the life of two siblings whose typical rivalry took a serious turn, offering profound insights into the delicate balance required to manage sibling issues and dynamics. Table of Contents ► Then and Now: Reflecting on Sibling Issues and Complex Dynamics ► A True Story of Sibling Issues and Rivalry Consequences ● The Characters ● The Incident ● The Reaction ● The Recoil ● Regret ● Concussion Protocol: The Hospital Visit ► Sibling Issues: Immediate Reactions and Parental Intervention ► When Sibling Issues Become Hospital Visits, Medical Insights ► 5 Alarming Facts About Sibling Issues and Their Long-Term Effects ► Sibling Issues and Rivalries: Immediate Reflections and Lessons Learned as Seen By Two Siblings ► Sibling Issues and Rivalries: Reflections and Lessons Learned as Seen By Two Siblings Over Time ► Sibling Issues and the Next Steps: Preventing Future Incidents ► Wrap-Up: The Lasting Impact of Sibling Issues and Rivalries ► Frequently Asked Questions About Sibling Issues, including additional resources Then and Now: Reflecting on Sibling Issues and Complex Dynamics Reflecting on childhood, sibling interactions often oscillate between heartwarming teamwork and fiery disputes that challenge the tranquility of home life. A look back at these dynamics not only invokes nostalgia but also offers essential lessons for contemporary parenting. Understanding the influence of past sibling relationships is crucial for fostering a supportive and peaceful home environment today. A True Story of Sibling Issues and Rivalry Consequences The Characters Meet Khloé, a spirited 7th grader with a knack for testing limits, and her older brother Dylan, an 8th grader known for his calm demeanor. Despite his reserved nature, Dylan frequently finds himself the target of Khloé's boundary-pushing antics, setting the stage for an unforgettable confrontation. The Incident On an ordinary evening, while Dylan was tidying up the kitchen, Khloé, feeling particularly mischievous, decided to stir up trouble and sibling issues. She stealthily approached Dylan and, with a quick shove, disrupted his chores—and mood. Their sibling issues were now beginning to escalate. Shocked by the sudden aggression, Dylan pushed back, marking a boundary with a stern look that served as a silent final warning. The Reaction Ignoring the warning, Khloé escalated the situation by slapping Dylan. Her actions resonated through the house, catching their mother's attention from the next room. Seeing Dylan's unflinching response and realizing she had perhaps gone too far, Khloé's instinct to flee kicked in. She ran to their mother, fearing the repercussions from her brother. The Recoil Caught in the heat of the moment, Dylan's judgment clouded by adrenaline, he chased Khloé down to the living room. What followed was a moment of lost temper as he spun her around and, in a regrettable decision, picked her up off the ground, throwing her to the ground head first. Regret The severity of his actions quickly dawned on Dylan as he saw Khloé dazed and confused on the floor, her cries for ice a stark reminder of the immediate consequences of their skirmish. Despite their sibling issues and antics, Dylan cared deeply for his sister, leaving him in deep regret. As tensions reached their peak, the consequences became unavoidably severe. Khloé was not right, not remembering simple things she had done throughout the day. Petrified and not knowing what to do, we rushed her to the emergency room to make sure there was nothing vitally wrong. Concussion Protocol: The Hospital Visit As the urgency of the situation led all of us to the hospital, where the staff promptly assessed Khloé, we could only pray she would be fine. After testing and waiting, we learned it was a concussion. Fortunately, it was not a severe concussion, but the incident left a lasting impression on both siblings about the real-world impact of their actions that stemmed from their sibling issues and consequences. Sibling Issues: Immediate Reactions and Parental Intervention This incident underscores the critical role of parental intervention in sibling issues and conflicts. As parents, it's crucial to recognize and respond to such escalations promptly. Setting and enforcing ground rules within your home for safety during sibling issues and escalations are vital , as stated in "Establishing Household Rules for Teenagers (link included)."  How do you handle similar situations? Share your experiences in the comments below. When Sibling Issues Become Hospital Visits, Medical Insights The visit to the emergency room was a wake-up call about the potential severity when minor sibling issues and squabbles take a turn for the worse, becoming dangerous sibling disputes with dire consequences. In the event of a suspected concussion or any substantial injury, acting on it as soon as possible is essential, not leaving anything to chance. "If a concussion goes undiagnosed and untreated, the immediate consequence is that you are at a much higher risk for sustaining another injury, even with much less force," Dr. Shetty says, "In terms of long-term outcomes, not following concussion guidelines after an injury can lead to persistent symptoms and eventual post-concussive syndrome, in which symptoms last for weeks, months or even years after the initial injury." —  Dr. Teena Shetty, neurologist and program director of the Concussion Program at H.S.S. 5 Alarming Facts About Sibling Issues and Their Long-Term Effects Widespread Abuse : Approximately one in three children with siblings experience some form of physical or verbal abuse, significantly increasing their risk of developing mental health issues later in life. Growing Apart : Roughly two-thirds of siblings grow distant due to ongoing conflicts during childhood, leading to indifference or estrangement in adulthood. Source of Abuse : In most sibling rivalry cases, the older child is often the perpetrator, particularly in conflicts between siblings of opposite sexes. Lasting Emotional Scars : Adults who endured sibling abuse or frequent conflicts during childhood frequently report lower self-esteem, heightened sensitivity, and insecurity. Parental Vigilance Needed : With 96.3% of siblings experiencing rivalry at some point, it's crucial for parents to monitor these interactions closely to prevent them from escalating into abuse. Sibling Issues and Rivalries: Immediate Reflections and Lessons Learned as Seen By Two Siblings This event has taught us all valuable lessons about the consequences of sibling issues within the complex dynamics of sibling rivalries. The emotional aftermath for each sibling was profound. Khloé's feeling of guilt for instigating Dylan during a time of intense aggression allowed her to consider others. Dylan's realization of his internal struggle with anger and protectiveness continues to resonate within him. Sibling Issues and Rivalries: Reflections and Lessons Learned as Seen By Two Siblings Over Time As the days and months passed, their sibling bond grew and flourished with a newfound respect, and they realized their power to change each other's outcomes. Through reflection, Dylan and Khloé have learned to honor each other's boundaries and the importance of managing emotions, especially during conflicts, as they continuously grow from this experience. As one of our most trusted resources, Psychology Today, states, "Sibling conflict provides an important opportunity to learn many interpersonal skills essential for healthy relationships, like listening skills, cooperation, seeing another person's point of view, and managing emotions." — article written by Corinna Jenkins Tucker, Ph.D., C.F.L.E., and Tanya Rouleau Whitworth, Ph.D. for PsycologyToday.com Sibling Issues and the Next Steps: Preventing Future Incidents This section offers practical advice for parents on de-escalating sibling issues and their conflicts while fostering positive interactions. Setting distinctive, clear boundaries and encouraging open communication are essential strategies for preventing similar incidents and other sibling issues. Wrap-Up: The Lasting Impact of Sibling Issues and Rivalries Sibling relationships are complex and filled with both challenges and opportunities for growth. By understanding and addressing the causes and effects of sibling issues and rivalries, families can transform conflicts into moments of learning and mutual respect, strengthening the bonds of family life. Have you navigated sibling rivalries at home? Share your story or tip in the comments to help other families. Frequently Asked Questions About Sibling Issues What are common signs of unhealthy sibling rivalry? Unhealthy sibling rivalry might include frequent physical confrontations, verbal abuse, and one sibling consistently undermining or belittling the other. Watch for signs like anxiety, withdrawal, aggression, or changes in behavior, which could indicate that the rivalry is affecting a child's mental health. How can parents help manage sibling rivalries? Parents can manage sibling rivalries by setting clear rules for respectful behavior, fostering a supportive family environment, and ensuring each child receives equal attention and praise. It’s also beneficial to teach conflict resolution skills and encourage siblings to express their feelings openly in a safe and constructive manner. At what point should professional help be sought for sibling issues? Professional help should be considered if the conflicts cause significant distress, lead to behavioral issues at home or school, or if the parents feel overwhelmed and unable to manage the rivalry on their own. Therapy can provide strategies for managing conflict and improving sibling relationships. Are there long-term effects of sibling abuse or rivalry? Yes, the long-term effects of sibling abuse or intense rivalry can include mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. Victims may also experience difficulties in forming and maintaining healthy relationships outside the family. What role do parents play in preventing sibling abuse? Parents play a crucial role in preventing sibling abuse by modeling respectful behavior, intervening in conflicts, and setting boundaries. It's important for parents to recognize the difference between normal sibling rivalry and abusive behavior. Consistent parental intervention and, if necessary, professional guidance, are key in preventing abuse. Can sibling relationships improve as adults after a contentious childhood? Yes, sibling relationships can improve in adulthood. With maturity, individuals may better understand and forgive past conflicts. Therapy or structured conversations facilitated by a mediator can also help siblings overcome past grievances and rebuild their relationships. How can siblings independently resolve their issues without constant parental intervention? Siblings can learn to resolve their issues by developing good communication skills, respecting each other’s differences, and working on conflict resolution techniques. Encouraging them to solve minor disagreements on their own can help them develop these skills. However, parents should still monitor the situation to ensure conflicts do not escalate. How do birth order and age gaps affect sibling rivalry? Birth order and age gaps can significantly influence the dynamics of sibling rivalry. Typically, older siblings may feel jealous or displaced by younger siblings, while younger siblings might struggle with living up to the perceived successes of older siblings. Larger age gaps can either lessen rivalry due to different life stages or increase misunderstandings due to different interests and capabilities. Parents can mitigate these issues by being aware of each child's developmental needs and avoiding comparisons. Are there specific resources or books that can help families deal with sibling issues? Yes, several resources and books can provide guidance and strategies for managing sibling issues. Some recommended titles include Siblings Without Rivalry , written by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish The Sibling Effect: What the Bonds Among Brothers and Sisters Reveal About Us , written by Jeffrey Kluger Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life , written by Dr. Laura Markham Additionally, family therapy and online resources such as parenting blogs and forums can offer practical advice and support. Love it? Share it!  (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles !  ✒️ Take me home  🏠 Back to the top  ⬆️ Originally Written on: March 29, 2023 Most Recent Update on: April 14, 2024

written by: singledadworld.com reviewed by: Daniel Currie I am thrilled to share a fantastic blog post from our friends at singledadworld.com . Their comprehensive blog, "Crafting Success: A Teen Innovator's Guide to Entrepreneurship," is a must-read for anyone with an idea and the drive to make it happen. This insightful guide delves into the exciting journey of teenage entrepreneurship, offering essential strategies for turning passion and ideas into a successful business. Let's dive into this valuable resource aimed at young visionaries ready to make their mark! Please enjoy it as much as we have! Thank you for your insight, singledadworld.com ! Image via Pexels Venturing into entrepreneurship as a teenager is an exhilarating journey that blends ambition with the challenge of turning dreams into reality. This dynamic process is a masterclass in adaptation and growth, providing a unique opportunity to shape the future. Aimed at young visionaries eager to make their mark, this guide from Guiding Teenagers  distills essential strategies into a blueprint for building a thriving business. It focuses on converting raw passion and fledgling ideas into a well-oiled business machine poised for market success. Perform Detailed Market Analysis The cornerstone of a successful business lies in a deep understanding of the market landscape. Thorough research is imperative to grasp the intricacies of your target market, including customer behaviors, industry fluctuations, and competitor strategies. This initial step enriches your strategy, empowering you with the foresight to make informed decisions and carve out a niche for your enterprise. It's about aligning your business vision with market realities to create offerings that resonate deeply with your intended audience. Start an LLC Starting an LLC as a teenager can provide valuable real-world business experience, teaching important skills such as financial management, marketing, and problem-solving. There is no LLC age requirement  and it offers legal protection by separating personal and business liabilities, reducing personal risk. Additionally, it can enhance college applications and resumes, demonstrating initiative, responsibility, and entrepreneurial spirit to potential schools and employers. Establish Achievable Objectives Goal setting transforms aspirations into tangible outcomes. By establishing clear, measurable, and achievable objectives, you provide your business with a clear trajectory of growth. Valley First notes that these goals serve as milestones , offering a sense of direction and a measure of progress. They encapsulate your ambition in actionable steps, driving you forward with purpose and resolve. Go for the Loan Establishing credit can be challenging for teenagers, but options like secured credit cards, store credit cards, and even some debit cards that report to credit bureaus can provide a starting point. These tools help build a credit history , which is essential for qualifying for larger financial opportunities like business loans. Alternatively, parents can cosign on a credit card or loan to help their teen build credit more effectively and responsibly. Reduce Paper Clutter When delving into entrepreneurship as a teenager, it’s critical that you stay organized. Paperwork has a habit of piling up, and a lost or misfiled document could spell disorder. Luckily, you can avoid this if you start digitizing your records. Simply scan your important documents and save them as PDFs.  Create a Robust Business Plan A robust business plan is the heartbeat of any burgeoning business. This comprehensive document outlines your vision and strategies and is the blueprint for reaching your business goals. It acts as both a guide and a gauge for your entrepreneurial journey, keeping you aligned with your core objectives. Moreover, a solid business plan is indispensable for attracting investment, offering a compelling narrative of your business's potential and operational roadmap. Craft a Memorable Brand Identity The name of your business is more than just a label; it's the first chapter of your brand's story. Choosing a name that's both memorable and reflective of your business ethos  can significantly impact your brand's identity and marketability. A compelling name sparks interest and lays the foundation for strong brand recognition and customer curiosity. This is all part of creating a compelling content marketing strategy . You can refer to sites that are curated by content experts to generate SEO and material for social media. Spotlight Your Unique Selling Proposition Differentiation is key in a saturated market. Identifying and promoting your unique selling propositions (USPs) distinguishes your business from the competition, drawing customers to your door. Whether it's innovation in product design, unmatched customer service, or sustainable practices, AWeber points out that your USPs are the pillars of your brand identity, enticing customers with a promise  of unparalleled value. This focus on what sets your business apart is essential in crafting a compelling narrative that resonates with your target audience, making your offerings irresistible. Prioritize Organizational Efficiency Effective organization is the linchpin of a thriving business. Implementing systems and tools to streamline operations  ensures that every aspect of your business, from project management to customer engagement, operates like a well-tuned engine. This strategic organization fosters efficiency, clarity, and productivity, propelling your business toward its goals with precision. Moreover, an organized approach to business management enhances adaptability, allowing your enterprise to respond swiftly to market changes and opportunities. Embarking on the entrepreneurial journey as a teenager  is a bold assertion of creativity and ambition. By delving into comprehensive market research, leveraging digital marketing, and setting realistic goals, you lay the groundwork for a successful business venture. This foundational framework equips young entrepreneurs with the tools and insights necessary to navigate the entrepreneurial landscape, transforming innovative ideas into scalable, profitable businesses. Embrace these strategies with passion and perseverance, and watch as your entrepreneurial dream becomes a thriving reality. Read more informative articles on the Guiding Teenagers   blog today! Love it? 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written by: Daniel Currie editing, proofreading, and accuracy reviewed by: Jacasa Currie Supporting Gay Teens, Part I of the Series: In honor of Pride Month, we are dedicating a special two-part series to support teens who are gay or feel trapped in their own bodies. In this part, we will focus on acceptance. It can be challenging to understand and support a teenager's "decision" to be gay, especially if you come from a more traditional upbringing. It's important to note that the word "decision" is in quotes because when your teen is honest about their desires and emotions, it isn't a decision but their raw, natural, inherent feelings. Let's dive a little deeper, shall we? Drawing Parallels: Uncontrollable Feelings In approaching our teen's feelings for the same sex, regardless of how we feel, we should always keep an open mind for their sake. An excellent way to help with this is by drawing parallels to other uncontrollable conditions like ADHD, stress, anxiety, and depression. These conditions, much like sexual orientation, cannot simply be controlled or changed at will. Let's explore this a bit more. Understand: Uncontrollable Just as someone who suffers from ADHD, stress, anxiety, or depression didn't ask for their condition and can't easily change it, our teen's sexual orientation is no different. It is not something they can control. It's an inherent part of who they are, not a choice. Understand: The Teen's Core Once we come to grips, understand, and accept the fact that being gay isn't just a life choice but a way of life—whether they want it or not—it will help us understand our teens better. Like a child with ADHD can't will themselves to focus, a gay teen can't change their orientation. This is who they are at their core; their raw, exposed, vulnerable, humble selves. Empathy and Support We should be proud and encourage our teens to wear their hearts on their sleeve, unafraid, courageous, and bold to be themselves in an uncertain world. When we see our teens waging war internally with their feelings, confused and scared, the best thing we can do for them is to be there for them and provide the support they need. Empathy and support will go a long way. The Social Teen Impact: Embracing Same-Sex Attraction As parents, it's natural to have concerns and fears when your teen comes out of the closet. Addressing these concerns openly and honestly can help forge understanding and build a stronger, supportive relationship. Fear of Social Rejection The most common concern is the fear of social rejection and discrimination when identifying as a gay individual. As a parent of a teen belonging to the gay community, worrying about their child's safety and well-being in an uncertain society can be utterly terrifying. There are ways to combat this unnerving and validated fear: Educate yourself and your teen about their rights and available resources. Encourage your teen to build a support network of friends and fellow members of the gay/LGBTQ+ community who understand and accept them. Create a strong foundation for your teen at home, helping them confidently navigate potential challenges. Worrying About the Future Parents often worry about their teen's future, fearing that the label of being gay might limit their opportunities or happiness. It's crucial to remember that being gay does not define your teen's potential for success or joy; how we respond to their orientation may. With the right guidance, support, and direction, our teens can lead fulfilling, successful lives. Focus on nurturing and enabling your teen's strengths and passions. Encourage them to pursue their dreams without fear and with confidence. By supporting your teen's ambitions and affirming their worth, you provide them with a platform to build a positive and resilient self-image. Building a Positive Home Environment Creating a loving and accepting home environment is critical for your teen's emotional health. Let's discuss some practical steps to ensure your home is a safe haven for your teen. Open and Honest Communication If you've ever read any of our Guiding Teenagers blogs, you know open, honest communication is key. Maintain and encourage open lines of communication with your teen. Urge them to express their thoughts openly and wholeheartedly without fear of judgment. Let them know that their opinions and experiences are valued and respected. By welcoming an atmosphere of openness, you can help your teen feel more safe, comfortable, and supported by the closest people in their lives—YOU! Inclusive Family Activities Engage in family activities that promote inclusivity and acceptance. Participate in events celebrating diversity, such as Pride parades or community gatherings. It's crucial to remember that this is for your teen. Being involved will mean more than you could imagine, reinforcing your teen's sense of belonging and demonstrating your commitment to their well-being. Professional Support There are times when seeking professional support can benefit both parents and teens. It shouldn't be the first thing that comes to mind, but consider connecting with a counselor or therapist who specializes in LGBTQ+ issues when challenges arise. Professional guidance can provide valuable insights and coping strategies for navigating this journey together. Therapy can also offer a safe space for your teen to express and explore their feelings, helping them gain confidence within their own skin. Conclusion Supporting a gay teen in a traditional family setting can be challenging but deeply rewarding. In honor of Pride Month, we focus on fostering understanding, acceptance, and love. By recognizing that sexual orientation, like other uncontrollable conditions, is inherent and not a choice, we can empathize with our teens. Address concerns about social rejection and the future by educating yourself, building a strong support network, and encouraging your teen to pursue their passions. Creating a loving home environment, maintaining open communication, engaging in activities together, and seeking professional support when needed are key. Acceptance and love are the most powerful tools to help your teen navigate their journey confidently and joyfully. Stick around for Part II, written by our newest member of the Guiding Teenagers crew, next Wednesday! Love it? Share it! (links below the written date/references!) 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written by: Daniel Currie A Personal Adventure: A Dad Meets Pet Bird Rigby for the First Time for an Unforgettable Experience! To Try New Things: Birds Don't Scare Dads! Today marked a first for me: a pet bird hopping on my shoulders while my family burst into laughter, teasing me for looking scared and tense. They claimed this tiny bird, which barely had the power to scratch, much less fly, was intimidating me. To Try New Things: What Not to Do! I couldn't resist teasing the little guy. While he was showing off with his owners—my son Devan and his girlfriend Sarah—I started invading his personal space, poking my fingers near him. I learned quickly that when you go to try new things, one of them not to do is instigate a bird. Predictably, he jumped at/on me. Naturally, my entire family was there to witness their "tough guy" dad flinch—though I maintain that I was cool as a cucumber! OK, I Got This. He Ain't So Bad. I quickly warmed up to the little guy. Impressively, I managed to walk away from the whole episode poo and scratch-free! Thankfully, Rigby left my mustache untouched—otherwise, I might have needed a website rename to notcurlystache.com! Ready. Set. Try New Things Without Thinking. Go! Now it's time to enjoy the shenanigans. Captured by our Google hub, here's a glimpse of the fun we had. I'm the one in the green hoodie, spontaneously ready to try new things alongside my eldest son, Devan. You might remember him from my last article, "Transmission Complete." He's the handsome, younger, skinnier, and long-haired version of me, wearing a black shirt. Devan, along with his girlfriend Sarah, owns the star of our story, Rigby. Comfy Shoulders, Cheez-Its to Snack, and Cameras Galore! After spending a memorable evening with Rigby, whose antics with North Face hoodies and Cheez-Its captured our hearts, I realized how his curiosity mirrored my own. As Rigby returned home, his little adventures left a significant impression not just on my clothes but also on my outlook. Keep an Open Mind When Trying New Things These moments with Rigby underscored a vital lesson about the joys and surprises that come from stepping into unfamiliar territory—It was an enlightening day that deepened my appreciation for keeping an open mind. Interacting so closely with a bird for the first time, spurred by a spontaneous decision, showed me and my family the value of not dismissing new experiences out of hand. That day positively changed my outlook on (pet) birds, especially cute, colorful ones like Rigby. Impacts of an Open Mind That said, and as shown with Rigby, it's essential to keep an open mind and try new things. Experiences like this remind me that life is richer when we’re willing to step outside our comfort zones and not confine ourselves to a rigid, black-and-white outlook. Embracing a bit of the unexpected and trying new things has reminded me of the joy in life's simple surprises. Try New Things: Birth of GT & CurlyStache.com I’ve always embraced the philosophy of trying new things, fully aware that it might not always end well. However, I believe it’s worth the risk to discover what truly resonates with me. I take these lessons and share them with my family, hoping to instill the same curiosity and resilience in my children. In the comment section below, share with us what you've done recently to try new things. We'd love to hear about it! Inspiration to Try New Things As noted in my very first blog, CurlyStache: the CTRL+ALT+Dad life, inspiration struck when chatting with my little girl about what a 'blog' is. Now, here we are with the birth of GuidingTeenagers.com, originally CurlyStache.com, in record time. If you haven't checked out the blog that started it all, please do so. It doesn't disappoint! Try New Things: Birth of our Social Media Platform With the launch of CurlyStache, I didn’t stop at just a domain; I've expanded our presence across several social media platforms. Find us on: Facebook X Instagram TikTok Pinterest Reddit What you can find on social media Our channels are buzzing with quick updates, a steady stream of fun dad jokes, useful parenting tips, engaging vlogs, and much more. Make sure to subscribe and follow us to stay updated and not miss a thing! We need your help. Spread the word! Let your friends and family know about the exciting content we're creating and encourage them to try new things. You can make a big difference by sharing our posts, telling others about our site, and using key hashtags like #GuidingTeenagers, #CurlyStacheBlogs, and #BloomingThoughts, which are found at the bottom of all our blogs. Your support means the world to us! Why Try New Things: Don't Knock It Until You Try It! As you can see, I'm deeply passionate about trying new things. Just ask the picky eaters in my family; they've all heard me say, "Don't knock it until you try it. Now eat." Simply put, you need to try new things before you can judge them. This philosophy extends far beyond the dinner table, where we've all judged the book by the cover. Let's try righting those wrongs; let's make a decisive attempt to try new things without bias and without knocking it before trying it! Push Your Boundaries by Trying New Things The essence of being true to yourself involves exploring new avenues—whether it's tasting a new dish, engaging with a pet bird, or launching a blog, it all boils down to three simple words: try new things. It’s about being open and willing to experience life fully, embracing everything from minor changes to major leaps. That said, the only way to truly "be you" is to keep pushing your boundaries and try new things. Be You When You Try New Things Be yourself and accept the good and the bad that comes with it as you try new things. In simpler terms, march to your own beat, but always press forward. Be The Leader by Trying New Things Lead rather than follow and dare to color outside the lines. Embracing this mindset can lead to profound contentment. Life will undoubtedly present challenges, including bumps and failures, but each setback is a setup for future success. Live Authentically While my advice might sound like a cliché from a greeting card or psychology class, I assure you, it's grounded in truth. Live authentically, and watch as things begin to align more harmoniously in your life. What can you change in your daily life to ensure you are living authentically? Final Thoughts To sum up, keep your head high, try new things, welcome new challenges, and embrace the opportunity to try new things. Doing this will bring unimaginable possibilities into your life, including happiness and less stress. So, why not take that first step towards something new today? I encourage you to try new things—just maybe steer clear of instigating birds! UPDATE - 5/16/2023, R.I.P. Rigby 😢 This original post was written on March 25th, 2023. Sadly, our beloved Rigby has passed away since then due to an accident involving another pet who was playing a bit too roughly with him. Although he was part of our lives for just a brief time, Rigby made a lasting impression. This post is dedicated to his memory. Rest in peace, Rigby. Love it? Share it! (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles! ✒️ Take me home 🏠 Back to the top ⬆️ Originally Written on: March 25, 2023 Most Recent Update on: April 14, 2024

written by: Daniel Currie Launched March 18th, 2023, this is the author's story and how it all came to be: "Our Pilot Blog" Introduction: Parenting Teens and the Years Ahead Hey there! I'm Dan, better known as CurlyStache. If you're navigating the wild waters of parenting teens, you're in good company. Strap in; it's a rollercoaster ride—scary, thrilling, and intense, but ultimately, it's an exhilarating journey that's over before you know it. CurlyStache: The Man Behind the Parenting Teens Blog Hailing from upstate New York, I'm not just the guy with the ever-changing curly or pencil mustache. By day, I'm a blue-collar broadband cable guy (curious about some of that WiFi lingo? Check out this special!); by night, I'm your go-to parenting teens blogger. So, what transformed me from a cable guy into a parenting advocate? It all started with a simple, yet profound, four-word question from my adorable daughter. The Question that Sparked the GuidingTeenagers Universe It was a lazy Saturday afternoon—one of those perfect moments for a father-daughter chat over my zillionth cup of coffee. Out of the blue, my 13-year-old daughter, Khloé, hit me with, "Dad, what's a blog?" What began as a fun fact-finding mission via our Google hub turned into a realization: this was my calling. The Platform: Real Talk About Parenting Teens As my daydreams turned into reality, I realized parenting teens was exactly where I needed to focus. Growing up in an authoritarian household and now riding the rollercoaster of fatherhood, I felt drawn to share and shape these experiences into the foundation of CurlyStache, which later evolved into GuidingTeenagers. GuidingTeenagers: It's Parenting Teens Mission Our mission is straightforward: deliver real-life tales from the parenting trenches and blend practical advice with solid facts. This blog is your sanctuary for discussing the gritty realities of raising teens. I bring the same street-smart, blue-collar integrity to our conversations that I bring to my day job up and down telephone poles. CTRL_control: Keeping Control When Parenting Teens Heats Up I'm not here to preach or claim I've got all the answers—far from it. I'm here to share the successes and the stumbles in parenting teens. Here at GuidingTeenagers, we dive headfirst into the tricky discussions, not just skirting around them. This blog is all about building a community where every kind of parent, whether you're a CTRL+ALT+Dad or a CTRL+ALT+Mom, can find a bit of solace and a lot of support. Together, we navigate the challenging waters of family life, sharing insights and laughs along the way. ALT_alternate: Creative Solutions for Sticky Situations Ever find yourself stuck between a rock and a hard place? I've been there. Parenting teens today requires agility and innovation. Sometimes, it means getting creative—like figuring out how to curb phone time at dinner or navigating tough conversations. GuidingTeenagers is packed with resourceful, decisive strategies to support your parenting journey. DAD_conclusion: You Are Not Alone in Parenting Teens Let's wrap this up with an essential reminder: GuidingTeenagers is more than just a blog—it's a community. It's a spot to relax, share a chuckle, and realize you're not alone in this parenting adventure. Have a story to share, a tip to pass along, or a topic you're eager to discuss? Drop a comment or shoot me an email. This space is as much yours as it is mine. Love it? Share it! (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles! ✒️ Take me home 🏠 Back to the top ⬆️ Originally Written on: March 18, 2023 Most Recent Update on: April 17, 2024

written by: Daniel Currie Introduction In every family’s tapestry, the threads that hold the fabric together are woven with countless colors of communication. These interactions, whether filled with laughter or tension, shape the essence of our relationships. Today, I revisit a story close to my heart—a simple, everyday conversation with my son, Devan, that beautifully captures the essence of truly connecting with our children as we navigate the journey of communication in parenting. The Story Unfolds | Communication in Parenting: Transmission Sent "Hey! Devan!" I called out one sunny afternoon. My voice, a mix of anticipation and the usual parental concern echoed slightly in the hallway. Devan, standing on the cusp of adulthood yet still my little boy in so many ways, was darting in and out of the house as young adults often do. "Yup, Dad?" His reply came, his voice deeper now, a reminder of the time slipping by. I chuckled softly, the sound mingling with a father's typical exasperation. "Please remember to shake out the pig blankets before tossing them in the wash," I reminded him, picturing the tiny hay pieces that could wreak havoc in our laundry system. The Assurance | Communication in Parenting: Transmission Recieved "Yeah, sure, Dad. Got it!" He responded, the quick assurance of a typical teenager echoing down the hall. The Missed Connection | Communication in Parenting: Transmission Failed Later, as I went to load the washing machine, a familiar disappointment settled in. The washer drum was littered with hay—the blankets nowhere in sight. Devan, it seemed, had missed the mark on our simple exchange. It was a small mishap, yet it spoke volumes. Communication in Parenting: Reflection and Understanding As I cleaned up the remnants of our miscommunication, my thoughts wandered to what had gone unsaid. Had I made my expectations clear? Was I too brief, or perhaps not direct enough? This wasn’t just about forgotten chores; it was about ensuring that my messages resonated with Devan in a way that prompted action and understanding. Communication in Parenting: A Parent's Needs It was crucial not just that my son heard what I was saying, but that he truly understood and engaged with it. In our daily exchanges over simple tasks, like the incident with the laundry, I wasn't just instructing him; I was testing our lines of communication and how well I was doing with my communication in parenting. It was vital for me to feel confident that he comprehended my words and was prepared to respond thoughtfully—even in seemingly trivial matters. Communication in Parenting: A Success Despite the mishap with the laundry, I hold a deep-seated trust that Devan listens—truly listens—when it matters most. This incident, while not ending as expected, isn't a failure but rather a valuable reminder and a learning opportunity for both of us. In previous situations, Devan has shown his ability to follow through effectively, which reassures me that our foundation of communication is solid. My approach to communication in parenting remains intact. I rest easy knowing that in critical moments, my son will heed my guidance with the respect and attention it deserves. Communication in Parenting: The Bottom Line This ongoing dialogue reassures me that Devan feels at ease opening up, sharing, and engaging in meaningful conversations with me. It’s important to highlight that the enjoyment of the topics we discuss isn't our primary goal. Instead, our focus is on maintaining an open channel of communication, ensuring we're both comfortable with just connecting and exchanging thoughts. This approach is the quintessence of effective communication in parenting—it's about making sure that our interactions foster a secure and understanding relationship, even if the subjects themselves are not always agreeable. Communication in Parenting: A Parent's Lesson This story, while trivial at first glance, is laden with lessons on the nuances of communicating effectively with our growing children and teens: Clarity First: Ensure your instructions are not just heard but understood. Sometimes, what seems obvious to us isn't as clear to someone else. Engage in Feedback: After sharing instructions or expectations, ask for feedback. A simple “What did you understand?” can prevent many misunderstandings. Consistent, Open Dialogues: Foster an environment where regular, open conversations are the norm, not the exception. This builds trust and makes it easier to navigate more critical discussions when they arise. Heartfelt Conclusion Communication in Parenting—true, effective communication—is the cornerstone of not only parenting but of all relationships. It’s about more than just transmitting information; it’s about ensuring our messages are woven into the understanding of those we love. As parents, we have the wonderful opportunity to do more than just talk to our children. It's essential that we engage with them, listen intently, and make sure they sincerely feel heard and understood. This is what truly defines effective communication in parenting. Let's commit to not just sending messages but to connecting deeply, one conversation at a time. Love it? Share it! (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles! ✒️ Take me home 🏠 Back to the top ⬆️ Originally Written on: March 22, 2023 Most Recent Update on: April 14, 2024

written by: Daniel Currie Introduction Alright, prank enthusiasts and curious minds alike—have you ever stumbled upon a calendar so bizarre it features a "National Asshole Day"? If you've ever thought this quirky occasion sounds suspiciously like April Fools' Day, you're not alone. Today, we dive into "everything April Fools," exploring its cheeky connection with National Asshole Day and unveiling the rich tapestry of history and hijinks that surround this day of practical jokes. The Quirky Origins of National Asshole Day and Its Twin, April Fools: Every year, as April 1st rolls around, a certain mischievous spirit fills the air. It's not just any playful spirit; it's one that some might call the essence of National Asshole Day. But what's the deal with this unofficial holiday? National Asshole Day isn't recognized on any official calendar, despite numerous contradictions and random dates from sites, but its spirit is alive and well on April Fools' Day. This is the one day a year where pranks pull us together or push us to vow revenge. From the harmless to the elaborate, pranks are both the hallmark of April Fools and the reason why it might as well be called National Asshole Day. Delving into the History: Everything April Fools The origins of April Fools' Day are as murky as the coffee you switched for saltwater in your spouse's mug this morning. Historically, it dates back to the 16th century when France shifted from the Julian calendar to the Gregorian calendar as called for by the Council of Trent. Those who failed to realize that the start of the new year had moved to January 1st and continued celebrating it during the last week of March became the target of jokes and hoaxes. These early pranks gave rise to an annual celebration of shenanigans that spread across Europe and, later, the world. The term "Poisson d'Avril" (April Fish) became a popular joke in France, involving pinning a paper fish on someone's back as a declaration of gullibility. Epic Pranks That Defined National Asshole Day (AKA April Fools) Fast forward to modern times, and the pranks have only gotten more ingenious and, yes, sometimes more asshole-ish. Here are some of the most memorable April Fools' pranks that perfectly capture the spirit of National Asshole Day: 1905: A German newspaper company, Berliner Tageblatt, released a fictional story of burglars digging under the U.S. Treasury and robbing it, which sent the U.S. into panic mode, trying to catch the fictional characters 1957: The BBC aired a fake news segment about Swiss farmers enjoying a bountiful spaghetti harvest, complete with footage of people picking spaghetti from trees. 1985: Sports Illustrated published a story about a rookie pitcher named Sidd Finch who could throw a fastball over 168 miles per hour. 1996: Taco Bell convinced the public they had purchased the Liberty Bell and were renaming it the "Taco Liberty Bell." 1998: Burger King advertised a "Left-Handed Whopper," leading to request chaos at restaurants. 2013: The U.S. Army declared they were drafting cats, citing cost-cutting measures and an all-paws-on-deck policy. Tips for Celebrating National Asshole Day Responsibly While pulling off the perfect prank can feel like a badge of honor, it's important to keep the spirit of fun alive without crossing into actual asshole territory. Here are some tips for responsible pranking: Keep it light: The best pranks are harmless and generate laughter from everyone involved, including the prankee. Know your audience: What works for one person might not be appropriate for another. Tailor your pranks to suit the individual's sense of humor and tolerance. Safety first: Never compromise someone's safety (or your own) for the sake of a joke. Wrapping Up: Why We Embrace the Prankster Within National Asshole Day and everything April Fools remind us of the value of humor in our lives. In an age where laughter sometimes seems in short supply, a well-executed prank can be a welcome distraction and a means to bond with friends, family, and coworkers. So, as we look forward to April 1st, let's plan to unleash our inner pranksters—but maybe keep the real asshole moves to a minimum. Have any epic pranks you've pulled or fallen for? Share your stories below, and let's have a laugh! Final Thoughts Whether you call it National Asshole Day or April Fools' Day, the first of April is a time for laughter, jest, and the occasional look over your shoulder. It's a day to celebrate the trickster in all of us and to remember not to take life too seriously—at least not today. Let me know in the comments what you did this April Fools! Did you play it safe, or did you earn the title of "Ultimate Asshole" with your pranks? Cheers to a day filled with laughs and good-natured fun! Love it? Share it! (links below the written date/references!) Make sure they know where it came from 👌 #GuidingTeenagers #CurlyStacheBlogs #BloomingThoughts Take me back to more blog articles! ✒️ Take me home 🏠 Back to the top ⬆️ Originally Written on: April 1, 2023 Most Recent Update on: May 4, 2024